The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief - Comments

  • Across 5 Oceans

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    I just lost a good friend a few weeks ago and haven't gone through only but two of those steps. Denial and anger. It still doesn't feel real that he's gone, but everything just feels numb. I think it's because after a while, my feelings just stop feeling. I know people say it's wrong and my heart stll breaks over him but I don't know. Is there a "numb" stage or grief? Cause there should be.
    November 6th, 2012 at 02:06pm
  • Freeing Conscience

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    @ giggles13
    I completely agree! Laughter is the best medicine :) I remember when my grandfather died and the first thing i did was watch The Hangover, The Hangover Part 2, Horrible Bosses and an entire season of Family Guy XD
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Be strong and thank you for your comment on my article.
    October 3rd, 2012 at 10:33pm
  • giggles13

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    This is a great article! I lost my friend in January and right now I think I have finally hit the acceptance stage. I am not sure if anyone has watch it but there is a really funny video on youtube with a giraffe that puts these stages into a comical setting. You should take a look. I know it's not a funny topic but I can tell you when you are going through something like this sometimes the best thing for you is a great laugh.
    October 3rd, 2012 at 05:54am
  • Freeing Conscience

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    @ a mimosa pudica
    Thank you so much for you comment. And regarding your question: every person's grief is different and thus all the steps of grief will be/might be in differet order.
    I'll refer you to the last paragraph in the article, in which I said: "Every person is different. Please do not think that you must go through every single one of these steps, in that exact order." I totally understand that everyone's grief is different and that is why I did, in fact, write a sort of 'postscript' saying that these are only guidelines of the grieving process.
    Again thank you so much for your comment as it will help be better my writing :)
    September 30th, 2012 at 01:36am
  • a mimosa pudica

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    This article was well-written, but I had a few questions that were roaming across my mind as I read your article. First, is it true for all people? Is it the exact same order as people would really feel? You should have at least put a postscript or a note saying that in this case, it could vary with many people. I, myself actually felt nothing of denial but mostly on depression and acceptance.
    I really loved the last step in the end wherein you placed Acceptance as the last step. It was more of giving a hope and an optimistic side to things, one thing is, you really put that as something that we will face in the end. Acceptance is the only last step to regain your happiness again, but knowing that you're going to have to do it alone.
    This article made it more convincing since you gave me resources, it was not all based on your own opinion.
    All in all, it was a good article.
    September 30th, 2012 at 01:29am
  • Martian

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    good article, well written.
    For me, i'd say I went through all those stages pretty quickly, I lost my brother about 3 months ago, and i'd have to say it was the hardest thing for me and my family to go through ever. =/
    September 29th, 2012 at 10:23pm
  • jewelia.

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    What a great article - I had no idea that there were actual stages, and the more I read, the more true I realize this all is. Great job!
    September 29th, 2012 at 10:02pm
  • Freeing Conscience

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    @ bunny-mommy
    true, very true. I apologize that I missed that in the article. Thank you for your comment though. :)
    September 29th, 2012 at 09:58pm
  • bunny-mommy

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    Pretty good article though you forgot some things like Anger at the person themselves for leaving you.
    September 29th, 2012 at 09:53pm
  • lil' dynamite

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    I'm still stuck somewhere in the middle of bargaining and depression :c Great article, very accurate
    September 29th, 2012 at 08:52pm