Sexting?? - Comments

And I agree with Charmless You guys shouldn't rip on Emily Alisa quite so much. She is just voicing her opinion on the subject; which you guys also have the right to do, but the ongoing arguement is getting kinda stupid. She thinks it's bad, most of you think it's a girl's own choice. Leave it at that.

Personally, I think underage girls shouldn't be told things like "do whatever you want." Trying to dictate to people how they can live isn't cool, but there's a limit. The excuse "it's her body, let her do what she wants with it" is not always going to fly. Underage girls are children. And children should not just "do whatever they want," now should they? Don't overdo the MYOB philosophy, m'kay.

And no: it's not right to call a girl a slut for "sexting." But she's going to be called one. That's a given; it's gonna happen. So, really, girls shouldn't be encouraged to do things like that. Self esteem in teenagers is easily shattered. And reputations are easily ruined.

I've never even heard of "sexting," but it sounds like a big nasty can of worms to me. I'm pretty adverse to pornographic pictures. I mean, if some girl feels the need to take a picture of between her thighs and send it to some guy, then....ok, that's her choice. I don't get it, but it's her choice. I just think stuff like that is degrading and embarrassing.

They are going to say and alienate you for it, you have to take it. Thats the "consequence" if you will.

People are going to say whatever they want about you- true or not. One of my best friends was called a slut because some boy spread a rumor that they had sex in his pick-up truck. I'm not all for girls sending out pictures of themselves or showing a lot of cleavage, but if that's what they want to do, that's what they're going to do. People are going to talk shit about someone else no matter what.

Once high school is over, it doesn't even matter.

Agreed, with both Audrey T. and saveroftheworld. You have the right to your opinion, but it does seem hypocritical and like Audrey said, sexist. So, I'm agreeing to disagree at this point.

Again, Im not saying haveing sex is good either, but one peron out side my family has seen me naked.

IM NOT TALKING ABOUT ADULTS, IM TALKING ABOUT HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS. If your a 18 and above you can do whatver.

But again, I can voice my oppion here. If you wanna disgree with it, so be it. Im no longer going to go on and on about this. Im repeating myself. Think what you will, say what you will. You will not change my mind, and im not gonna change yours. So lets all agree to disagree? Yes?

None of my friends know about the pictures, but they know that I have sex with my boyfriend.
That's different to me.
And I know I'm not going to get called a bunch of names for having sex with my boyfriend, who I love.
The thing is, I sent those pictures to some guy who lived in a different town, who was 23, and I was 18 at the time. I'm not the type of person to just send naked pictures to anyone.

No, taking those pictures doesn't make you a bad person or a slut.
But I felt like one after I took them.I regret it. I mean, once those pictures are sent, they are out there. No take backs.
I see the other commenter's points and stuff....but if my 15 year old daughter was taking naked pictures of herself and sending them to random boys, I don't know what I do, because I've been there,and I wouldn't want her to go through that.
I've seen reputations destroyed when I was in high school when girls did that.

Yeah, Playboy isn't bad, but the thing is, that's legal.
15 year old girls sending naked pictures to people is not.
There's the difference.

That's just my opinion on it....so, if you want to disagree...
I guess, we will just have to agree to disagree....
This is long enough anyway.

You have a right to your opinion which I will defend to the end but I also believe you're a hypocrite and therefore I can't debate with you any longer.

Emily Alisa I won't argue any longer, because what we're talking about here is all about people using perspective to put others down, to say 'well, I don't do that, so I'm not as bad as she is." You say Have respect for yourself because of people sending pics of themselves over the internet, but someone could be looking at your pics (or mine) and thinking the same thing. A lot of people would consider a bit of cleavage or showing a little bit of legs very disrespectful, a lot of people would consider your pics (or mine) slutty and they could be wrongly judging you.

I understand your point, I do, and you've got the right to your opinion, but I simply disagree.

I think it's all just a way of thinking I don't agree with, if you don't do this the way I do it, you're slut. If you don't show skin the way I show skin, you're a slut. If you don't look for attention the way I look for attention, you're a slut.

I think it's unfair and, quite honestly,.a bit sexist, and it's just another way for women to make other women feel bad about themselves. It's just another thing for women (especially young girls) to pick at, and another reason to sling insults.

It's a personal choice, sexting or anything else, and if everyone would just mind their own business, things would be much better. If females would just stop trying to attack each other over boys, things would be much better.

And that's all I have to say about that, because I know it won't change anything. Girls will be girls.

Your comparing apples to oranges, so what your saying is I can post a picture of a boobs and it would be the same as my bra acciendly haning out of my shirt?

&& Im not saying haveing sex is right either, no for one second I am not saying that. But I think its way more slutty if you send a picture of yourself to someone when you know its gonna get out, when you are a child in high school. One person out side of my family has seen me naked, and my boyfriend is that. Only one. Not the whole school and loads of other people.

OK just one thing. Your thing there says you're 26. Your profile says you're 15. You admitted you'd had sex.
Why is it that you having possible underage sex is acceptable to you but 'child pornography' as you eloquently referred to it as is such a big stigma with you?

"Have respect for yourself."

Just because people choose to do something you disagree with or wouldn't do personally, doesn't mean they don't respect themselves. Do porn stars or nude models not respect themselves because they choose to do that for a living? Like I said before, it's their body and their choice. Have some respect for other people's decisions.

Im sure not going to name names! Its on the Tyra Banks show, and many girls in my school do it. But Im not going to name the girls in my school, Im not doing that.

Listen, if your gonna do that, your gonna get treated bad ohk? Its not gonna be all flowers, the worlds is a crappy place and people are mean. They are going to say and alienate you for it, you have to take it. Thats the "consequence" if you will.

But anyone can disgree to this, Its Mibba I can voice my view, so can you.

You said that you got called graphic things from 'just having sex' - which by the way I think Audrey T.'s teacher had it totally right with her analogy about - why are you doing the same thing to somebody else?

You can see your bra in a few of those pictures. That's still not a good thing. I guarantee that if it was posted on some adult-related site, people would get off on it. Bras and that much cleavage are just as bad as full-on nipple.

I don't think anyone, male or female, should get awful treatmeant because they choose to show their body to other people. I'm saying that girls should be treated like the guys are treated. It isn't as big of a deal if guys take those kind of pictures, so I don't think it should be made into a big deal if girls choose to do the same.

Audrey T. Yes, I agree with that statment too. But Im saying its wrong when I child shows alll her skin, or their skin, their private parts and sending it to a boy or girl when you know its gonna get out. Or if your doing it to try to get "popular". Thats wrong, join cheerleading or sport, dont show your vagina or boobs to get people to like you. Have respect for yourself.

But I agree with you, they should get the same awful treatment as a girl would.

NO THEY SHOULDN'T!

For goodness sake, no one should be treated like that!

I'm sorry, forgive me for asking, but who exactly is sending you these pictures?

Boys get charged with child pronography just as much as a girl would. They just may not be called a nasty name, other than making fun of the size. But I agree with you, they should get the same awful treatment as a girl would. I deff agree with you.

Sorry I dont mean to send things twice.

Boys get charged with child pronography just as much as a girl would. They just may not be called a nasty name, other than making fun of the size.