How Do You Let Go?How Do You Forgive? - Comments

Hm, I understand what you're going through, to a certain degree. I don't think it's possible to move on but that's my opinion, some people do manage to move on though. Just try thinking of the people that ARE there with you, think of the people that have been by your side your whole life, think of the people that love you. That's all that should matter because even if your father wasn't there to take responsibility, there are also the people that have been able to watch you grow into the person you are now. Know that you're not alone and that feeling hurt and feeling the pain is a totally normal feeling. When you're ready to let go, you'll know.

I wouldn't consider his behaviour a personal attack at you, he doesn't know who you are or who you've become. And it's most likely fear that made him turn you away so long ago and perhaps fear/denial that has always kept him away. If you want answers you should attempt to find him. If he is still capable of turning you away. It will hurt. Probably more than it does now. But at least you know that someone like that isn't worthy of being your parent. I'd rather have just my Mom than a father like that any day.