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I read the journal about your mum, and I agree with you- parents should be there for you and they should care and want to help you. However, you can't say that all good parent-child relationships will involve constant gushing of 'I love you' or certain quotas of words exchanged.

There is no such formula. Firstly, it's the quality of the conversation that counts. And secondly, when people really love each sometimes they feel like they don't need to remind each other of that love. It depends on the person, and so maybe your mum is just one of those people? I know my mother certainly was, but that doesn't mean that she didn't love me. I wonder, do you also tell your mum that you love her all the time? Do you ever initiate the 12 conversations you want to have per day, or do you just sit back waiting for her to do this?

Everyone is different, and although relationships should be about catering to both your needs, you can't expect anyone, even a parent, to be a mind-reader. I have no idea about the details of your situation, but I know that often sitting around waiting for someone to come to your rescue isn't the way to go. A lot of people would rescue you if they could, but they don't always know what's wrong, and you can't expect them to be hovering 24/7 trying to nut you out. By the time you're a teenager, even your parents aren't going to be that interfering- that's just the flip side of independence.

Another thing that some people, even your parents, will be inclined to do when they're not sure what's up is give you your space. It's not always easy to know whether to approach somebody, or even to how to approach them, when you think that something might be wrong. In that respect, none of us are superhuman- not even parents. A lot of people figure that if you are upset, you will come to them. Often they think that by not being nosy they're just being courteous, as maybe this is what they would want other people to do for them.

I suppose what I'm getting at here is that it may just be that your mum isn't a very outwardly emotional person. Chances are, she still loves you in her own way, but if you want her to love you in your way, then you have to work on that too- you can't just expect her to be psychic and run around after you. If you want to talk to her more, then start conversations. If you want her to help you, then tell her you're upset. In the end, you can't rely on other people to solve your problems for you. At some point you have to stop being passive and take responsibility for your emotions- that's just part of growing up.

I don't know if this has been helpful. As I said, your previous journal was very brief I don't know the details of your situation. But if you ever want to hit me up for a talk, I check my Mibba frequently.

Cheers,

-Aelf.

Maybe write her a letter, that's how I used to talk to my mom. It usually worked out because it turned out that she understood a lot of what I was going through. If not try to ask your school official deal to help you explain it,getting it out helps. good luck.

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