For those of you with (and excuse my choice of words) "daddy issues," enter here. I want some opinions. - Comments

@AlrightAlright: I have thought many times about how I woould feel if he just dropped dead one day. And like I said, I don't wish death upon him, and it's something I've thought about for awhile, and my honest opinion is that, I think things would be better off if he weren't around. I mean, sure, I'd probably cry a little. But to answer your other question: no, I've never really felt like I had a real father. I mean, I can barely recal any really good memories with him.Through all the years my parents have been apart, I've been just fine without him in my life. My mother is pretty much everything to me, so I count on her most of the time. But you brought up a very good point tho, thank you.

@masochist. my dad is the exact same way. He was such a perfectionist, and actually, I think I inherited that trait from him. Only I don't really get angry at other people if things aren't just right, I mostly get angry at myself. I'm like that with my writing. Ha.

I read all of it, probably because my own war with my dad has once again broken out.
You're not selfish or anything like that. You're just fed up. I understand how you feel. My father had recently stopped drinking for a few months, and everything was fine. Now he's starting it again, and it's coming close to being World War III between us again.
He looks at me as if I'm worthless sometimes, and he manipulates my mom into thinking that she's the one who's crazy when he has mood swings more than twelve pregnant woman.
I understand how you feel fed up and wonder if he's all just a bunch of lies. No, it doesn't make you a bad person.

I can understand how you feel. I feel the same way toward my dad. He's not always lying about things like that, but he is quite the manipulative bastard and I've never felt like he cared about me at all. He's always been so cold and impossible to please. He expected everything we did to be perfect, and if it wasn't, he got angry. It was ridiculous.

But I'd say you're not wrong in how you feel toward him. I've tried forgiving my dad, but it's hard. I want to be on good terms with him now, but honestly, I'm terrified of him. xD And I resent him for a lot of things. So I can completely understand your point of view.

Oh, and Thanksgiving was good for me. ^^ My grandma makes the best food, I love Thanksgiving at her house. x)

Okay. So I don't have daddy issues. However I read all this, and my conclusion is that your dad has issues. If he keeps doing this is he really someone to hold on to? I mean, if my dad did this to me I would be pretty pissed. But then again, if something was to happen to your father tomorrow or in a year, are you sure you would feel okay about it? Would it simply be okay that he was out of your life for good? I think this is a question you should ask yourself. I'm not sure what I would do, because my dad is nice and all. So I can't relate at all, but if I never liked him, and never had a relationship to him I'm not sure I would care. As cold as that might seem. But I'll use a personal example, my uncle, I've met him like three times in my life, and I wouldn't care if I never saw him again. Because I know what a jerk he is. Am I sad that he and my family doesn't get along, sure. But I don't miss him. You can't really miss something you never had, and did you ever have a real father?

well no I didn't read all because it seemed to long I read till I got half way

but your dad I think craves attention
he's used to making lies to deceving people for reasons unknown
maybe because he thinks that lies are better than the truth