Advice please? - Comments

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I admit, I've cut myself a few times and I'm not proud. I realized that cutting or committing suicide isn't worth it, even though I experienced the worst thing that could possibly ever happen to me.

Talk to your parents, maybe they'll understand. I hope you're okay.

If they yell and you feel like you're about to yell back, hum your favorite song in your head. It should help. But also, I hope you aren't mad at your friend. He/She is only trying to help.

First of all, you need to remember not to take your mother's reaction to heart. My mother reacted really badly when she found out about my cutting. You know why? Because she was so shocked and hurt that her own daughter would do something like that to herself. She blamed herself, she blamed my dad (who she wasn't with), she blamed my caotic upbringing... Well, she was just angry. Very angry. At least on the outside, but on the inside she was pretty much falling apart.

So no matter how your parents are acting, like if they're angry - that's not what they really feel. They've just found out that the one person in the entire world they love most, are so genuinely miserable that they would hurt themselves.

My mother has told me that the worst day of her life was when I told her I wanted to die. And cutting, well, that's just the beginning, that's nearly like telling your parent you want to die. And imagine hearing your child saying that?

Basically, what I'm trying to say, is to not get upset if they're angry. Remember that as hard as this is for you, it's also VERY hard for them. If they yell, they don't really mean it. They don't mean to be angry, and whatever words they say (my mum said some really stupid things), that's most likely not at all what they're really thinking or feeling.

I think the best thing to do is to be honest. If the cutting has nothing to do with them, that's something you need to stretch, because they will blame themselves. So pretty much, good luck. Really. I've been there, it's very difficult, but as long as you remind yourself that they love you it'll be okay.

I've never been in a situation like yours, and I've never cut. But just always, always be honest. Answer any of their questions honestly. Also, like your teacher said, just keep calm. Your parents love you, they only want the best for you. They want to help, I'm sure. So just be honest and calm. Hope everything turns out okay. -hugs-