My father is mocking me. - Comments

I am sorry that happened to you. If it makes you feel any better, I respect you for being brave enough to tell your family. I have told my friends and have had two girlfriends, but I still haven't told my family because I'm scare of how they'll judge me. My grandma is a hypocrite, and she changes her view on things in a second. And then she starts screaming and thinks she's always right. She loves to argue.

I hope that it gets better for you.

v I have. I have tried to do that so many f*cking times but he never listens. I've been trying for the past two years, ever since I got really into the gay rights movement & started accepting that I like girls. I've tried being calm. I've tried explaining it to him before he knew that homophobia was a personal battle for me & he just never listened. When my mom told him he didn't say anything. Yeah, he hinted that it's just a phase a lot. & now this. This is the only time he's actually told me anything about his feelings about this. He doesn't care how much an affect it's having on me to hear him say that. I've made it blatantly obvious in the past five minutes how badly that hurt me & he doesn't give a damn.

If your father is willing to go to the GSA meetings (even if he's going just to be spiteful or "start an argument"), let him go. Who knows what he'll learn there.

Honestly, you "flipping your shit" isn't going to change the way he behaves or what he believes about you being bisexual - perhaps you need to try a new tactic, like calmly talking to him about who you are and why it's important to you that he accepts that and at the least, treats it with some kind of respect. Let him know that he doesn't have to like or agree with it (because he certainly doesn't and he won't), but that you need him to respect that this is how you feel and approach the subject with some kind of tact if he wants to talk to you about it at all.

I know you're young (being only fifteen) and your initial instinct is probably to get upset and start cursing at him, but that obviously isn't working. As much as it sucks, you're going to have to be the "adult" in this situation. Acting childishly isn't going to make him accept you or change his feelings - it's just going to spur him on. In the end, the more like a 'typical teenager' you act about all this, the harder it's going to be for him to take you seriously and get out of the "it's just a phase" mindset I'm sure he's in.

I know how you feel, in a way. :\
I'm sorry about your father (to be honest, speaking from experience, if you don't need or want your father (really, really don't, and you'll know if you don't) in your life, cutting ties is fine.)

My grandfather (he's like a father to me) is homophobic (and racist. -_-) but I have gay and bisexual friends, and he keeps insulting them and it drives me up the f*cking wall.

There is nothing unnatural about sexual attraction or love! And homophobics need to understand that gay and bisexual people are humans, too.

Your own family should support you, not make fun of you. That's cruel. Besides, it's not like you can change. You can't say, "Okay, dad, just for you, I won't be bi anymore."

I'm sorry.