relationship help....... - Comments

Take some time to think about it. Who do you care for more? I know you care for both of them, but which one do you care for just a little bit more? If you can't decide, maybe you should be single for a while until you can decide.

Flip a coin. Designate who's heads, who's tails. You'll know who you like more by your reaction to your result.

I agree with Lizzie. 14 is an age when you grow and mature independently. You won't die if you don't have a boyfriend. Its better if you just let them off easy so you have time to think about it. I would personally not go through the dating drama; its too much stress for me.

You're 14. Honestly, you can't really love anyone at 14.
If you can't pick, don't pick either. Power to strong, independent women, no?

I think it's pretty unfair to both of them if you're in a relationship with one person and secretly lusting after the other--and if you do that, I'll be honest, I don't think it's really love. I'm not saying it's impossible to have a crush on somebody when you're in love with somebody else, because we're all human and we notice attractive, charming people and we can't automatically shut that off--but if you truly love your current boyfriend, you wouldn't be willing to leave him for your ex, and vice versa.

If it's a matter of chosing between the two, take into consideration your reasoning for wanting to be with each one. If you're only with your current boyfriend because you don't fight often, but your feelings for each other aren't very strong, then that's not a very strong foundation for a relationship. I don't know the story behind either of your relationships, so I'm not saying this as a reason as to why you should go back to your ex--simply as an example of what kind of things to take into consideration, what kind of foundations those relationships have.