The irony of my MOST awkward moment ever occuring on 'doomsday' - Comments

I can only hope so. I don't see how I will get that lucky though. That's okay, thanks for talking to me. I really appreciate it. If you need to talk to me about something, I'm here as well. I'll talk to you tmoro then, goodnight

Honestly, dealing with any kind of mental disorder--depression, anxiety, etc.--takes a toll on anyone. For someone who's never dealt with those things, it's pretty hard to even understand them, let alone cope with them. He may simply not have been prepared to deal with that kind of thing.

But don't say you won't find someone who will be there for you through all of it. Because you will. And what's more, you'll find someone who not only makes you feel better when you're with them, but who makes you feel better about and happier with yourself. Someone who, instead of having to be dependent upon them to be happy, helps you be a stronger person by yourself as well as lifting you up when you're with them.

I never thought I'd find someone who could put up with all my bullsh-t AND meet all my high standards, and I did. Just give it time. You have plenty of time to find someone. Don't cling to old relationships because you're scared you can't do better.

I have to get offline now--boyfriend has some things he needs to do and I've been hogging the computer, haha. But if you still wanna talk, feel free to PM me or comment on my profile and I'll get back to you tomorrow.

Yeah, I have quite a few too. What I don't get is, for a long time, he was with me through it all. But then, he just couldn't take it anymore. He would always say when the break up came up that "I couldn't be who you needed or what I thought I could be and I'm sorry". He said he couldn't stand that it was difficult to make me happy all the time. But when I was with him, I was happier than anything, but when we were apart, it wasn't like that so much. When I was around him, everything that bothered me melted away. I don't think he understands just how happy he really did make me. I thought he did, but maybe he doesn't. I'm afraid that I won't find someone who will. He did accept me for who I was, but suddenly that changed. I tried so hard to keep us together, but I was the only one trying in the end and I couldn't keep us from falling apart. I never wanted this to happen, he was the kind of person I needed in my life and now, all of that is gone

v Okay, if he broke up with you because of anxiety issues...I don't know, I don't know the whole story. But take it from someone who suffers from Generalized Anxiety Disorder, mild Panic Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Depression, and phobias (yeah, quite a few anxiety issues there)--anyone who is worth it will stand by you through all of that. And sometimes it may hurt him. But if he really loves you...as my boyfriend tells me, even though it hurts, he says it's worth it because he knows who I am underneath the anxiety and the pain it puts him through is worth it when he gets to see me happy again.

Any real man should feel that way. Trust me, if that's what ended this relationship, then you WILL find someone else who will stand by you through it and help you through it no matter what.

That's what sucks, what I want and what I know is best are two very different things. I want us to work but I know that it's best not to try again. Part of me is screaming to do whatever I can to get back with him someday but the other part is telling me not to. I'll probably never have to make that choice though. The reason we broke up is complicated and it's why I feel a bit guilty. It has to do with my anxiety. And I hate myself for it because what I wanted most and possibly cared about the most, is gone because of me. Neither of us ever cheated or disrespected one another or any of the typical things that would cause a break up, but it still happened. I'm afraid that I won't ever be able to move on

v Well, as long as you want things to work out so you can be together again, you won't get over him. Think about what's good for you. Not what you want or what FEELS good, but what IS good. If you truly think a second try with him would be a bad idea, regardless of making you temporarily feel good, then you need to let yourself move on.

It doesn't help you to blame yourself. Sometimes, no one is to blame. Sometimes relationships are amazing and then, over time, people become complacent in that relationship, or they realize that they just don't work together like they did at the beginning, or whatever the case may be, and it's nobody's fault. Sometimes the relationship just isn't good for the people involved in it. But if you carry all the blame and spend all your time wondering where you went wrong, you'll never be able to move on.

That's what I think, that it's his way of distancing himself. I don't think he is entirely over me, I mean, we dated for 19 months and we were really close. He may not love me the same, but I don't think he doesn't care about me. He did break pretty much every promise he made, even the ones where he said he'd always love me and that I'd never lose him. Well, those turned out to be a lie. I was stupid to let myself believe that maybe he was different than previous guys. He seemed genuine, but I trusted him and I'm paying for it now.
I want to either move on from him or have things work out with us so that we can get back to loving each other again. But, while the latter would be ideal, I don't see that happening :( I hate that I can admit that to myself because I didn't see this coming and what's worse, I feel like it's my fault. I just don't want to feel for him anymore when nothing can happen. I mean, it's not impossible, anything can happen but I really don't see how we could be together again. I'm also afraid to let myself trust him again. It sucks, because he was amazing for so long and he made me happier than I'd ever been.

He may be treating you that way because he doesn't know how to react, and because he himself isn't sure how he feels. Maybe it's his way of convincing himself he's over you, in the hopes that it will help him move on. I know I've done that before.

I don't know him, obviously. And I'm not saying this to give you hope that he still has feelings for you--if you want to move on, you have to let go of false hope. If he's acting this way, it's probably because he's trying to move on, and it sounds like you want to do the same.

It's hard to explain when you "know" you're over someone. But I can tell you this, if there's still part of you that is hoping you want to get together or that feels dependent on him and how he treats you, you're probably not over him. The best thing you can do is to just go about your daily activities. Don't FORCE yourself to get over him, but just keep living your life, and in time, you'll adjust to being independent from him again.

Yeah, I agree. I mean, I'm not going to lie, as much as I'd love to be able to say I have no feelings for him, that's not true. I tried to be friends with him knowing full well that I was by no means close to over him. He even told me himself that he wasn't over me yet either. I think now he is because he treats me like I don't exist and like I never mattered. I've heard many times that I shouldn't want someone like that in my life but he wasn't always like that and I think that with time, he could be nice to me again. Nowhere close to how we were before, but there is no going back. I wish he'd actually talk to me :/
Today, I'm not sure how I felt seeing him. Part of me might have been a bit happy? But, I didn't detect any sort of happiness in seeing him, only anger, fear, awkwardness, and a little bit of nausea. May I ask you, personally, how would you say that you know when you are over someone? Because, I'm really not sure if I am or not or how to figure it out exactly

Ehh, I've tried the whole "being friends with the ex" thing before. And I admit, I had it in my head we'd get back together. Sometimes before you can be friends again, you need to give yourselves time to get rid of the other kind of attachment/affection. Trying to move from "love" to "just friends" in one movement usually DOESN'T work, and you have to give each other the time and space to have closure on the relationship before a friendship can be feasible.

Oh dear lord haha. That is extremely awkward yet funny, but definitely awkward. Yeah, I mean, running into him could've been worse, I could've been alone and him still with all his friends. That would've been much worse but it was still horribly awkward nonetheless since the last time we spoke which was on easter, it didn't go well at all.
We've been broken up since December 28th and we tried to be friends but that didn't work because he led me on by telling me that we could definitely be together again some day and that he would want to. So me, being stupid and thinking he was telling the truth, started flirting a little and then he just freaked out and stomped all over my heart again. I don't think either of us knows what to do at all. I hope he felt a bit of something when we had that awkward moment. I'm not entirely sure what I felt, I was just so shocked because he never goes to that mall and the coincidence was insane. I hope things do work out, I still want him in my life even just as a friend.
Yes, your story did make me laugh a bit, thanks

Hey, at least you didn't have my boyfriend's awkward moment--at the party we were at today, a bunch of people decided to take their pants off and his (male) friend tried to make him join that movement. By force.

And of course, at this party were several of my boyfriend's coworkers AND three of his bosses. All of whom had an opportunity to (though only a couple people did) see his rear end, because in my boyfriend's friend's attempt to pull my boyfriend's pants down, he pulled his boxers too. xD My boyfriend was left trying to cover his junk while pulling his pants back up and hoping no one was looking at his ass.

Different kind of awkwardness, but awkward nonetheless.

Don't worry too much about your ex, honey. Heartbreak takes time to get over, but it does heal. Neither of you probably know how to react to each other right now, and he probably felt as awkward as you did. Just give yourselves and each other time, and more importantly, space and closure. Things will work out.

In the meantime, I hope I at least made you smile.