A relationship and a year away, can it work? - Comments

Personally I think your mind is mostly made up but you just want to have that last bit of fire stomped out of the other idea so you can feel more confident.

My b/f and I have been apart that long and will still need to be apart for at least another 8 or 9 months. But we love each other to pieces and we feel like it just makes us stronger. Like the more we are away and still manage to talk every day and sacrifice for each other the more we realize it's something beyond physical.

In your situation I guess just keep him as a friend have your experience and then see where you stand a year from now. Things like this can change people and you might not be the same going in and coming out.

Hmm I see what you're all saying, but I'm wondering if it could really work with this guy. His last gf went away and because they didn't see each other that often, they broke up...if I start something with him, it's gonna end up exactly like that I fear :/

I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for just over a year now. However, I get to see him every couple of months so I understand your situation is different. Although I will say that i've been allowed a lot more freedom and independence in this relationship than my last which wasn't long distance.
Trust between the two of you is so important if you want to make it work, but frequent communication helps with that. You could have the best of both worlds; independance and a relationship. Even if me and my boyfriend can't talk during the day we make sure we have a phone call every night which helps with the communication and trust. I personally think it could work really well.

I've been in a long distance relationship now for over a year, I'll admit they're hard but if both of you are willing to work on it it will work. Also the distance can make the time ye have together more special. Ask yourself do you reallt want it to work? Can you trust him? and vice versa. As long as you both keep in touch even for an hour a night it can work

I was in an LD relationship once before. They're hard yes, for sure. But i think that you should just go along with this person where it takes you and make sure they know you're going abroad. and then keep talking with them while you're overseas. maybe you'll start a relationship while you're there. maybe you'll start one when you're back. just keep the communication open so you don't lose them even if you don't have them right away.

I've been in a long distance relationship for two months and honestly, I've never been happier in a relationship. It depends on the person, in all reality. Are they willing to commit to you and your traveling? Will they understand? Will they be able to stay in touch with you quite frequently? Can you trust them completely? Can they trust you?

If you really feel strongly for someone, you should talk to them about these feelings and about your traveling. If it doesn't work out, then you can say you tried. Otherwise you'll always wonder what if?