November 11th, 2011 at 09:53am
I'm not even sure you will read this, or care but -
Wow. This HONESTLY is EXACTLY what my friend and I went through. He and I have known eachother since we were babies. Except, I guess I was the other person you are talking about. I had always been there for him, and told him that I would always love him also. Which is true, because I love him very much! I treated him like that, But soon after I started telling him I didn't want to hear it. Not to tell me, because every time I told him the BLUNT truth, what I thought, he would get mad at me. I guess this can kind of relate to you, not that this is going to help anything. I am just saying, ever since I started treating him like that we stopped talking. A year later, we are talking again. But I can't be blunt with him, and he sure as hell doesn't say anything about his problems or what's wrong with him. I wish I would've never handled it the way I did, because our realtionship isn't the same. But I am sure if your long time friend doesn't come around and be there for you, That you WILL find someone else who will. That's what I learned. Because sooner or later, I am sure you will get tired of it, and someone who does care, and who does want you to tell them about how you feel will come along. & Your friend will see the mistake they are making, and you will see the better choice YOU are making.
I honestly really envy your ability to be blunt, it's such a great gift, no matter what people say. I'm one of those people that has extreme difficulty opening up and just saying what's wrong, even if I know it would help me to say it. So don't lose heart, just keep being you and if this person can't take it, tough.