My first relationship? I'm scared. - Comments

I'm awkward with any relationship, honestly, because I'm so, so used to getting hurt even if I like someone, so being involved with another person makes me very cautious.

L o s t Not from Liverpool, but I'm from England. Devon.

It was so incredibly amazing and beautiful, my first relationship was just wow, so this is what love is? but of course it wasn't really love, it was just perfection at the time, I really enjoyed it and would kill to go back to those times, it ended on good terms, we both just realised we weren't in love and I still keep in contact with him, it was his first relationship as well and I think the fact that we shared such a important innocent part of our lives together its sort of connected us in some way and we always go to each other for advice.

Can't help but notice you said lad, are you by any chance from Liverpool?

Okay, so, I am in my first relationship right now, and we've been dating since March 12th 2010; only three months and six days until our second anniversary <3

I won't lie..It's tough sometimes (as is every other relationship), but it's worth it. I feel so safe and secure, and knowing that there is a great, strong guy behind you in case you fall is a fantastic feeling. I feel like I can do anything with him, because if I fall, I know he will catch me.

You just have to let yourself fall and trust that he will be there. That is a difficult something to do, especially if you've had your heart broken before, but if he's as great of a man as I've read him to do, you won't fall and hurt yourself <3.

I was DEFFINITLY scared when he and I started to date (in fact, I broke up with him twice before we settled into a steady relationship in grade nine) but now I'm the most comfortable I've ever been!

*big breath* So in short, fall for him, trust him, and everything will be fine; Take it from me who's relationship hasn't been the same since I was scared in the beginning, and don't mess it up because you're scared, just let it happen and try to be fearless <3

He seems amazing and I'm sure he is. You have to give it more time though. I've seen many of my friends get their hearts broken over and over again. It's hard at first but you eventually make it and you know that it will all be alright. I was once very much in love (or so I thought) with a lad who didn't really treat me right. He would always look at me in a way that made me feel as if I was some boy toy, but I never felt romanced by him.

He never gave me a look each girl should get. I then realized that I wasn't even in love with him, he was just a crush. This was two years after he got a girlfriend. He always had a chick with him, he's be sucking on her face wherever he was. The thing is, it wasn't the same girl. It was always a different one. To me, that's a warning sign. At the time there was another lad who I kind of blocked from my life, but he was very much into me.

I didn't like him. But soon I realized that he was amazing. I mean truly special man who really does care about me. He respects me, and that's hard to do when you're a dude. He knows how to make me feel special and he's also shown his loyalty towards me. He's blocked every single girl that's after him out of his life and it's as if he only has eyes for me.

I gave it time. I now realize that there's a difference between love and a crush. When you have a crush on someone you don't see any of their flaws. Everything you see is perfect. When you love someone you notice their flaws but you accept them.

It's perhaps the only way to tell them apart. I've gotten over the last lad but it sure wasn't easy. I now don't even see what it was that I saw in him. Take it slow. Realize that he does have flaws. Learn to accept them. And remember that I'm here.

- Lily

You're gonna feel like he's the one. You'll say some ridiculous things to him. You'll be scared of his rejection. You'll learn a lot of interacting with another person and their own point of view on life. You'll do anything to keep it going. Every other human being he talks to you'll be jealous of. He'll find your trust. Then you'll fall in love.....and you'll never forget him.

Well my first proper relationship, which has been my own real one really was great. I felt exactly like you before i got with him, lets call him jim :P And jim was just like this guy your describing and my advice to you is go for it girl! Why not? He seems so lovely, and perfect, you deserve to be treated right. As for the sex thing, dont think about it as taking his virginity, and just let it happen, dont try to rush into things because you feel thats whats expected, just let it happen :) As for feeling like you will fuck it up, dont feel like that otherwise you will! Dont worry about things like that just go with the flow and have fun, thats about all i can really say though so yeah, have fun and go for it.