January 6th, 2012 at 06:28am
V I get that this person is trying to be helpful and has had an experience of their own, but please, whatever you do, don't tell your friend that you won't be involved in her 'drama'. This trivialises her problems and will probably make her resent you.
Encouraging the two to talk things out by themselves is a worthwhile idea, but I would never, ever force them to by putting them in the same room against their wishes, etc. This could make things worse, and also make them both start blaming you.
I would try to avoid making this about your feelings, if I were you. That just turns it into a three-way fight, as everybody is hurting too much to reach out to anybody else.
The one thing the poster below me is right about, however, is pointing fingers. Don't do that. Aim to diffuse the situation. It doesn't matter who was right or wrong (probably nobody was strictly in the right- emotional problems are complicated like that), and you shouldn't be looking for solutions that place one person in debt of forgiveness to the other. The important thing is that it ends.
Yea, K is probably the person that believes they are always right, and if you even hint at that she is being dramatic, she will immediately retreat. If anything, it'll add to the fuel.
But I still think you should get your feelings across...without that "D" word. XD