When I’m a Mom (hypocrisy) - Comments

  • Amysteriousglint

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    I'm a mom. I was a young mom in fact. I still live with my parents and bartend on the side.

    But the whole turning into your parent thing. It does happen frequently. But you can change it. You have the ability to choose your own path. Normally people who end up following in their parents footsteps are too lazy or dont have enough will power to change that part of them.

    I did change the cycle already. Well sort of. The cycle was have an abortion at 17. I chose to keep mine where as the generations before me didnt choose to keep their first ones.
    March 16th, 2012 at 04:19pm
  • DarkestStorm

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    Sounds like an interesting idea, I'm doing a similar thing except not, it has to do with my past and who I am now really. Anyway, I hope this goes well.
    March 16th, 2012 at 03:07pm
  • Grandiose Delusions

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    Although I can't really relate to being raised by a nanny, I can relate to the whole 'not wanting to become your parent thing,' especially now since I'm actually going to be a parent in a matter of months. I love my mom dearly, but I have to admit she can be a cruel person when she wants to be, particularly to my father. I don't want a relationship like theirs' and watch it turn sour. However, I agree with Tinkerbell, it does come naturally to you, I mean I already am starting to get 'instincts' I guess :P

    Your idea sounds really interesting and I'm glad you're willing to recognize the error and not repeat it for YOUR child's sake, that takes a lot of courage :) The list sounds pretty good.
    March 16th, 2012 at 03:00pm
  • still a secret

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    Babbling is fine. This does help, actually. One of the scenarios in my mind of the future was me checking this when I'm already a mom, finding I did do something against the list and beat myself up for it. :))
    March 16th, 2012 at 02:02pm
  • Chelsea.Dagger

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    Although I am not a parent myself I would say not to worry. Being a parent will come to you naturally. Each mother has their own way of doing things and there is no guarantee that you are going to turn out the same. It's natural to worry especially when you've had a bad experience/relationship with your own mum. Aslong as you love your child with all you have then the rest will follow.

    What you are doing is good but at the same time there is not a checklist as to what makes a good parent. Like I said, take it as it comes and enjoy being a parent (when it happens.)

    Sorry I babbled and hope it helps. :)
    March 16th, 2012 at 01:19pm