When I'm a Mom (forced affection) - Comments

asteroid, I suppose there's some kind of love there. But it's still... it's not shown ideally.

She doesn't exactly get mean about it, but she kind of uses emotional blackmail to deal with it when we don't follow the rule. I still think it isn't cool.

I see it more as a family tradition if she's made you do this your entire life. There has to be some love there, right? That should overrule the formal requirement established by her. If she's mean about it, then that's not cool.

WTFMusicPerson Actually, I tried just saying "Hi, Mom," a few months ago when she got home. Then she got all pissy and told my dad to tell me to kiss her.

But your parents follow the rule, too, right? It's not just kids to parents, but kids to parents to kids?

I think that could be it too. But I don't know, I haven't really asked anyone else about it who might know. But it's just a weird thing to feel towards your kids, and we were only in elementary school when she imposed the rule. She shouldn't have felt insecure when my sibs and I were so young. :|

There's sort of unspoken rules of affection between me and my parents. It's an unspoken rule that the first time they see me or I see them during the day we acknowledge each other with hugs and kisses and a quick love you. There's also if one of us is leaving the house if you aren't asleep or in a bad mood you kiss them goodbye. At the end of the day unless one of us fell asleep early or is busy you have to kiss and hug good night.

Failure to do so will indicate you are intentionally ignoring someone mad at them or somthing is wrong with you and or your attitude.... Which will lead to problems so it's better to just not have problems lol. Plus it's rude to not acknowledge the people you live with

My parents don't impose rules of affection, so to speak.
Although I do admit that it's nice when they will kiss me
on the forehead or say "I love you" just because.
But most of the time, I appreciate that they're. . .present.

I think your mom has some insecurities and she feels as if
she wants you to do that for her benefit somehow. I could
be wrong about it but that's what it appears to be to me.