Am I a horrible girlfriend? - Comments

I'm in that boat too, almost exactly the same tale :(

But I let him know and I don't have all of the feelings back again but they're back. I convinced him to make a midnight stop last night and for the first time in almost two years we acted like two stupid teenagers like we did when we started. I've talked him into taking me to the zoo this weekend - where we had our first date. And I've planned out this whole picnic and I'm doing every little childish thing I can to make the fire come back.

And we've stopped having sex. I'm telling you that took a whole load off our relationship because it feels more like it did before.

But then again maybe it's a good sign those butterflies are gone. I mean, it means you're comfortable right? If you could find away to eb the boredom than I'd say you're set. :)

Don't stay with him just for the simple reason he's all you know and things go ok. That's how people end up in bad marriages or end up cheating on each other down the line when things get more complicated. It's better to just try to bring the spark back and if you keep ending up here in this same place cut your ties you'll just make yourself and him unhappy.

Honey, I've been here, felt exactly this. :(
My boyfriend and I had been together for two years, hit a rough patch, and broke up for god knows how long. It was horrible being away from him. It made me realize that I wanted nothing more than to be with him.

But that's exactly what I needed.
I needed to be away from him, and I needed to get out and find someoen else to realize that I wanted to be with him. I dated for a while, he dated, and when we came back together the spark was back. We've been together for almost four months now, with no major rough patches.

I say, you should take a break for a while. At first it may seem like a terrible idea, but it's brought us together. Maybe it could work the same for you?

Thats the thing, I love being comfortable...thats why Im scared too see other people, being comfortable is safe....I guesss since Im so young, safe isnt really working out. I guess I;ll try to rekinle the romance, but if that doesnt work out, I gues Im just going to have to accept the fact that being apart is whats best. Thanks guys :*

If you have to ask if something is normal, chances are it's not.

You're not terrible.
The one thing I fear in relationships is comfortability and familiarity, because once you know everything about this person... There's no risk, no surprise, no being scared of doing something. I suggest you find something exciting to do with him (within moral and legal limits) and go from there. Or, try new things- new places to eat, hangout.

Just, don't ever get too comfortable with a place or activity. If you do, you'll get bored. Keep changing things and hopefully, you'll feel better about him :D

No, not horrible. Sometimes we just grow up and change. You can't force what isn't there-that's just lying to yourself and will eventually end up hurting you both. My suggestion is to see other people. Be honest with him and tell him how you feel; explain clearly and in detail. Suggest you see other people...because it doesn't do any good if you're not happy. Honestly, when a girl isn't happy they tend to stray...like you said, you caught yourself flirting. I would be straight up and honest with your bf...trust me, it's appreciated in the long run.

The only thing I can think of is try to rekinle the romance. I'm in the same boat with my boyfriend as well, but rekinling romance with him.......psh! All he wants is just that so anythig I try to do will get him thinking that's going to lead to you know what.

But yeah anyways try to bring back the romance. Maybe you need to spend more time with him or ask yourself why are you getting bored what is causing you to flirt with other guys? Are you ready for a serious relationship right now. You just need to ask yourself things like that.