I think I have a problem.. (My Chemical Romance) [READ THIS PLEASE] - Comments

Okay. I do not believe that is an obsession. If you care about something so much, I don't think it's an "Obsession" anymore. I think of it as dedication. You are very dedicated. As am I. So do not let anyone, not even your mother, change your thoughts.

~Pansy Xo

Like Amorar says, everyone obsesses over a band. I was obsessed with Green Day for awhile and right now it's A7x. I didn't change my whole style over the bands, but I mean, I've always had a strange sense of style and I'm always changing it. I'm 22, I've been obsessing over bands since I was your age.

It's normal for you to react this way, I supposed, because you're young and it's your mom. Granted she could have worded things differently but she's just worried about you because she's your mom and she loves you. My mom and I always fought because of people I hung out with, music that I listened to and the way I dressed, but that's normal. I'd get mad at her, we'd cool off and we'd talk about it later when we weren't going to yell. Basically, you're a kid and I know I'm pretty much repeating what everyone else said, you're going to change a lot from now until whenever. Don't push your mom away, instead, you should chill out, give her time to chill out and then sit down and have a calm conversation with her. Let her tell you her feelings and listen to her, don't get angry because she has something to say that you don't want to hear, and when she's done, calmly explain to her how you feel, and try to meet each other at a middle ground. It might not be exactly what you want, but you have to compromise with your parents and even realize that sometime's there is no compromising.

I agree with AmorarEsDeVivir. You're young, for the next couple years you're going to go through steady fast changes in personality, style, taste, emotions, etc. There is nothing wrong with obsessing over a band, especially if you've just started to get into them hXc.

I've been a fan of MCR since I was your age and you're going to hit heads with a lot of fans and non-fans; the MCR fanbase is very protective of the guys. But at the same time, don't argue with your mom, she's your mom. You're 13 years old and you need to respect what she says. From what you say, she could have handled it way better but so could've you.

And no, there's nothing wrong with you being in love with a 35 year old man, he's famous -- they are the exception to the rule.

You don't have a problem until you start thinking you're going to run off with him and going to get married OR you believe Gee/Frankie love is true. Then you should probably take a step back and reevaluate.

You're 13 and yet your profile says 24, reason?

You're just a regular fangirl.

V. Couldn't agree more!

My chemical romance is brilliant, so i think its chill to be in love with them;)

To be honest, you sound like a normal fan girl. I acted like that when I first got into the band and I was around your age at the time. It's normal to obsess like that and go on and on about them. Eventually over time though, you'll calm down a bit. I know I did, haha.

It just comes with age, I think. My parents used to tease me about being an "emo kid" all the time and listening to "My Chemical Romans." Your mom doesn't have the same obsession as you, and doesn't know that much about the band, so she may have just jumped the gun.

v. full agreement. I obsess a bit over One Direction. My Ma doesn't like it when I talk about them either.

I personally think you need to maybe chill it just a bit. Music is wonderful, people that make music are even more wonderful. But don't get into fights with your Mom about it, she is your Mom and you should respect that she doesn't want to hear about them twenty four seven. I think she should be a bit nicer about it though.

Eh, everyone obsesses over a band. If you can deal with the fact that yes, it will sometimes annoy people (which goes for whatever fandom you may belong to), then carry on.

Your mom's wording choice may have been off, but you have to admit--MCR does have a pretty cult-like following. (I say this as a fan of the band.) A lot of the fans take everything they say to heart and base their whole lives on what the band says and does, and while it's great to take positive messages from them, when that many people take it to that level, it starts to be seen that way--maybe not as a literal cult, but as something with a similar following.

By the way, if you have a problem being labeled, throwing out labels on "preppy b-tches" really isn't the way to prove that.

All in all, you're 13. Your style, taste, personality, etc. is going to change nonstop from now til whenever you're fully grown into yourself, which could be five years from now and it could be fifteen years from now. In a year, you may find yourself on a completely different track than you are now, just like you're on a completely different track now than you were a year ago. It's part of growing up. And another part of growing up is that your parents won't like all the phases you go through, and you're going to butt heads. It's something you'll learn to deal with.