The Topic of Cheating on Someone - Comments

@ SmilingScarlet
Agree.

Again, so late, but I like that these are back to back.

I'm speaking from experience on both sides. From being cheated on, to being the one to cheat...its terrible. Finding out that I was cheated on by the person I loved was just a shitty thing to find out, and to top it off it was my first ever relationship at 16. It kind of sullied my views on relationships in general for some time, and for that reason I stayed single.

Come 2011 I found another guy, and I thought he was decent. It was fine for the first four months, and then I realized that my heart wasn't even in it anymore. I have to disagree with the first person to comment on this. Here's why I couldn't break up with the guy, as much as he was a bit of a lifeless boyfriend, sometimes he'd do out of character things that would surprise me in the most pleasant way.

We're only human, and when you're with someone for so long you just get comfortable and think that there's nothing else like that out there, and that's why some people stay in a relationship and cheat. There's another situation that's going on right now.

This guy wants to break up with his ex (I think they're dating again), but he feels that if he does that she's going to go bat-shit crazy and ruin his reputations as a tattoo artist. I've me this girl, she seems like the type that would. Sometimes people feel trapped in the relationship, and in order to gain some ounce of freedom or what have you, they cheat.

I'm rambling. Perdon, mama! If it ever gets to either point, get out as soon as possible. Because in the end you'll be left with some not so high opinions of yourself. That's about the only thing I can really say.

@ xMandiblesx
It really helps a lot hun, thank you so much and I'm glad you guys are past that.. :) thanks again for sharing your experience..

I agree with all the people who have said that if someone is planning on cheating, they should just break up with who they are dating first. I think that's true. I also believe that there is no real reason for anyone to cheat on someone. It's a selfish act in itself and just makes whoever it is seem like road sucking scum in my book.
Now before you read on any further, I know I just said people who cheat are scum and I stick by that, but even so, some scum can be forgiven.

I've been married for six years now and had a great marriage or so I thought. Back in May my husband decided to cheat on me. It was just once with a girl he worked with. Now before you hate, I know there's no justifiable reason for ANYONE to cheat, but I can understand in a sense of where he was mentally when it all went down.

He was having a mental breakdown and honestly, I don't think he was sane for awhile. He tried killing himself around that time as well. Now my only fault in all of this was, I was depressed in general and checked out for awhile myself and I guess I didn't notice his downward spiral or that he needed me the most then. Didn't help that he's the type to NEVER tell me or ask me for attention and he expects me to read his mind all the time.

Needless to say, I was devastated when I found out. I went through months of pain and questions within myself. I know he loves me and we are past it now, it's just it really woke me up. I'm not saying what he did was right or that I'm glad it happened but in a way it has definitely made our marriage stronger. Apart of me hates him for what he did, but I know his intentions weren't to just go out and fuck someone. I think it all really depends on the people involved. Sometimes people do get weak and stray because of their own stupidity or poor self control. Sometimes it really doesn't have anything to do with their partner, but a problem with themselves instead.

To anyone who has ever been cheated on, I feel your pain and I know it hurts like hell. It takes months to get past the hurt and it never really fully goes away, but time helps and it helps if you don't sit around thinking things like, I wonder how they did it, what he said to her, etc. DON'T torture yourself like that trust me it's no good.

I don't know if any of this helps anyone, but if you really love someone and they love you back even though they made a mistake, you should try and work it out or begin the long road of forgiving them. There's no excuse for what my husband did, but I love him enough to forgive him and move on with him. I'm not one of those women who just stays in bad relationships either. I'm sure that he won't cheat again and if he happened to, he won't be getting a second chance. Sorry I wrote a novel's worth lol.

I alway's say if you don't love someone anymore that gives you no right to cheat on them,just break up with them instead of cheating.

Aha, yea, I admit, I felt the need to cheat on my last boyfriend a lot of times, but I suppressed it until the point that I decided to tell him the truth and just break up with him. >.> you're welcome. :)

@ Foxtrot
yeah that's what a lot of people have told me about... thanks so much for your opinion hun ;)

To tell you the truth, I actually feel the same way as Join the Masquerade and Isadora, but some people are afraid of asking their partners to maybe try being more satsifying and that they feel the need to cheat, but to be honest, people will always cheat -- regardless of them actually caring that they're hurting their partners or not.

@ Isadora Pierce

@ Join the Masquerade
Thank you so much for your opinions ;)

In my mind, there are no moral reasons to cheat. I have friends that have cheated. I have friends that have been the person someone else has cheated with. If you're not happy being with someone, then stop being with them.

I feel like if you're not getting what you want in the relationship just break up. Two is not better than one in that case, there is no reason to cheat in my book. No GOOD reason, in any case. If you aren't happy, tell the person, and leave. They go bang whoever you want. I've had many friends who have been cheated on and friends who have cheated. In every case, they all say "I just wish it would have been over, I wish we would have broken up, so nothing could have happened." And I agree. If I thought I was tempted to cheat, I'd break up with my boyfriend. I wouldn't hurt someone like that and risk breaking their heart.