Defending staying with a guy I won't marry. - Comments

in all honestly, i never really thought of it this way. my mother & most of the women in my life are always saying that dating is for marriage. you date people you want to/could see yourself marrying. & yes, that's partially true. but dating is also for FUN. & you couldn't have worded it better when you said, "not every relationship is forever; every relationship does have the opportunity to be a learning experience." perfect.

& like you said, you're only 25. anything is possible. maybe everything will work out & the 2 of you will end up marrying someday. & anyway, your happiness is the ultimate goal. whether you be in a relationship or married. & no one should care as long as you're happy. :)

I have no desire of marrying my boyfriend either, even though our family and friends are trying to talk me 'round to the idea. He knows that at the end of the day, I'm nineteen and he's twenty-five - getting married would be the worst decision ever.

I don't see why women these days are still expected to marry. My mum's about to marry her third husband. If I'm going to marry, I'm not going to make her mistake and marry for children, I'm going to marry for love.

@ recluse-
I feel like people wouldn't be as 'concerned' (not sure what word I'm looking for here) if I told them me and my bf were going to be together "forever" but we didn't plan on legalizing it.

We just know we're going to break up eventually and we're okay with it.

That's what people can't seem to get over.

I think a lot of older people, because of how they were brought up and the generation it was, believe woman should be married. It's crazy but...

My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years and have no plans on getting married. He doesn't beleive in marriage and I just don't care. It's a piece of paper exclaiming that you'll love each other forever? I don't need a piece of paper to tell me that. And most relationships end up shit anyway so...

Well said. It really isn't anyone else's business what goes on in your relationship. It's between you and him. & the idea that someone
"has to be" married at a certain age is ridiculous. Maybe it's because
of the fact that my parents aren't married but are still together,
and it's irritating how people keep pushing them to get married.

But then again, I think the idea of being with someone "forever"
is terrifying and somewhat unrealistic. (At least, for myself.)

This makes perfect sense.