Do I wing the Long Distance relationship or someone who's close to me? - Comments

@ druscilla.
I honestly meant no disrespect. I'm sorry if I offended you, it wasn't my intension. I'm very aware that relationships are not defined by physical contact. When I wrote that I was explaining how I had originally felt about long distance relationships.

Its not my opinion anymore. I was raised to believe a bunch of things that I feel aren't right but at the time I didn't realize it. Now I have completely different views on these things and I agree that relationships are more then just physical things.

Again I apologize if I offeneded you in any way.

@ blessedbybroken
I wasn't aware relationships were defined by physical contact. If I am asexual and do not have sexual attraction/interest in sex (but can have romantic relationships) am I not in a relationship if I don't have sex with my girlfriend of three years?

Relationships are about a lot more than hand holding and kissing. They are about communication, work, effort, shared goals, shared defeats, shared victories. They are about a lot more than physical affection. I can get that from any one-night stand.

@ Crown The Secrets
It's no problem hun. I hope things work out for you, you deserve it :-)

@ blessedbybroken
That's what I'm saying. I mush really like her if I'm crying over her but it still confuses me. And i used to laugh at people with LD relationships and here I am in a struggle. I regret laughing at them cause this is a pain. No but thank you for the personal experience. You gave me an open mind about this. I might, just might go for her.

I see her this summer for the first time hopefully and I'm not sure if it would make this worst or better but I cant wait to see her in person. A friend told me that if one doesnt make it as my girlfriend, at least I'll gain a friend. Your LD Relationship was in the work but it kinda did fall off and I fear that. I just need to grow out my fears and I hope I can soon. You did help me think so thank you. :) Much love darling <3

I can't really tell you what to do here, and I want you to know I'm not trying to I'm only sharing my own personal experience.
It is very possible to have a long distance relationship. I'm from TN and I go back there every summer to visit my sisters. Two summers ago I met a girl who I fell head over heels for and she the same for me. I had to leave though and I didn't believe in the long distance thing either. I didn't see how you could possibly tell people you're in a relationship with someone when you can't hold each other, hug, kiss etc.

That was before I fell for her though. After that I realized that knowing she felt the same about me, and that she wanted to call me hers was something to fight for. Sure it sucked not being able to see her in person and such but we talked all the time, much like you do with your Canadian girl. The fact that I knew she was willing to put up with the stress of being with someone who wasn't right there proved that we should give it a shot.

Things were actually pretty good with us, we dated for a solid year like that. I saw her this past summer and towards the middle we decided to go our separate ways. It had nothing to do with the long distance thing though, in my opinion anyway. She just decided she didn't wan to be in a relationship anymore, she'd gone through some family issues and needed to be by herself. As much as I still felt strongly for her I accepted her reasoning and moved on, and we still talk occasionally and I've gotten over her.
In fact I've got a new crush but that's not important XD

Anyways, that's not the point of this rant, the point is just to give you an example of a long distance relationship that did work out. Even though I can't tell you what to do, I will give you my personal opinion. I think that if you really like this girl that you should give it a shot. Don't lose a chance at true love because you're scared about long distance. It sounds to me that you really like this girl because if you didn't moving on wouldn't hurt.

Hope I helped a little, good luck hun :-)

@ druscilla.
Well I havent dated the one in Canada before so I think we could still be friends if things work out with the one here in my town. You know? But it does make me feel better-in a weird way- that it IS in fact possible to like and date someone from the internet.

@ bitch head
She makes me happy, she does and she still does over twitter and tumblr. Just just made me sad just this once when she told me that. I give up, i'm so lost right now, I dont even know anything anymore.

@ Crown The Secrets
We are not. We stopped talking about we broke up. She left me for someone else. (Online, ironically.)

@ Crown The Secrets
Do you think she could make you happier than she makes you sad?

@ druscilla.
Do you mind if I ask if you guys are still friends till this day?

@ Crown The Secrets
I was in one for 16 months and they require a lot of effort. And even after all that effort, mine didn't work out. But we were both dedicated to each other and not just wanting someone. We were friends for several years before as well.

@ druscilla.
So If I did wanted the Long Distance relationship, all I would need is a lot of effort? But you're probably right. I'm questioning this too hard and it's going to be difficult for both of us.

my advice is that if you have to question an LD relationship vs. someone near you, you shouldn't do the LD. because you're questioning it and won't put the full effort required in. they can work, but only with certain people and only if you want the person and not someone "right here".

@ Crown The Secrets
Anytime. :)

@ bitch head
I dont know what's the problem either and yet I sat there crying over her the whole day after she told me that. It's a good thing but then it's not...

@ Crown The Secrets
It would have hurt me too, trust me. But since she did sincerely mean it, I don't see why it should be a problem c:

@ FallenCreature
Thank you, dear <3

@ bitch head
No, it's okay. And she didnt say it in a rude way, she was understanding and said it's okay if I did moved on. She said she'll still be here for me but it still hurt me when she told me that. I dont know why.

@ Crown The Secrets
It's up to you.
Good luck.

@ Crown The Secrets
Lol, sorry!! No of course that wouldn't make you a bad person! Especially since she told you to move on.