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  • FrankJScott

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  • The Zac

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    @ Average Lifesaver;;
    Thank you :). But yeah blowing off steam is quite therapeutic. I just can't stand people who actively seek out advice, but get angry when it isn't what they want to hear.
    July 29th, 2013 at 11:44pm
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    I definitely agree with this - I tend to have this issue with one of my friends in particular because I'm relatively sympathetic, but I often tell her what she doesn't want to hear.

    I know that I'm someone who complains occasionally, but I try not to talk about really big things that are out of my control. Just rollin' with the punches. My blogs can get kind of ranty, but once I blow off some steam or whatever, I can usually see both sides of the story.

    I like the last paragraph of this though. Very true and well written.
    July 29th, 2013 at 09:23pm
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Haha exactly, you're not allowed to like how you look. You're also not allowed to hate how you look. It's impossible to keep up.
    July 29th, 2013 at 08:31pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    True that. It pisses me off when people are like

    people: Love yourself, gurl! you're beautiful!
    Me: Yeah, I'm very pretty.
    People: ewww, so cocky!

    dafuq? Facepalm
    July 29th, 2013 at 08:27pm
  • The Zac

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    Haha it's the inside that counts, but it doesn't hurt to have an awesome exterior too.
    July 29th, 2013 at 08:24pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    I know I don't fit in "society's beauty standards" but I like my body, so yeah XD
    It's the inside that counts, Zac! Maybe xD
    July 29th, 2013 at 08:52am
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Haha that's fair enough. I like that I have a better body than most people I know. I know that it's not enough to coast on that so I try to be a good person too lol.
    July 29th, 2013 at 08:05am
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    I have to admit that I feel good when I hear compliments, but I don't care too much. Totally gonna sound cocky, but my face is so pretty that I can afford not having an absolutely perfect body. And I actually think being chubby fits my face and personality lmfao
    July 29th, 2013 at 07:05am
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Yeah that's a good attitude to have. I'd be lying if I said vanity wasn't one of the reasons I work out lol.
    July 29th, 2013 at 04:22am
  • Sansa Stark

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    I used to be borderline obese, then I made an effort to lose 30lbs and I stopped because I like my body the way it is now even though I'm not thin. Some people call me fat, others say I'm "hot" but I didn't lose weight to be hot, I did it to avoid being sick.
    July 28th, 2013 at 11:17pm
  • The Zac

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    Yeah for sure. Then the attitude of not "conforming to society's beauty standards" becomes a scape goat and a way to ignore the blatant health issue.
    July 28th, 2013 at 09:36pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    There is a huge difference between being chubby/pudgy and being just plain obese. Not all chunky people have health issues (the same way not all skinny people are anorexic or anemic), but obesity is, in itself, an illness. It's not about looking like a catwalk model, it's about being healthy. People are so worried about beauty standards that they forget about the health factor, you know?
    July 28th, 2013 at 01:13pm
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Absolutely, how can you love yourself if you're not your best possible self?
    July 28th, 2013 at 01:03pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    Apparently, she and a lot of obese people want "society" to stop hating on them. I don't hate obese people, I hate the idea that it's okay to be super unhealthy.
    Now, it is true that today's beauty standards are fucked up and we should always have self love, but loving yourself also means recognizing that you have a problem and fixing it.
    July 28th, 2013 at 12:33pm
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Love your obesity? What the fuck? What's to love? The health complications and looking like shit? I can't get my head around this whole fat pride thing. What are you proud of? Eating too much and sitting on your ass all day?
    July 28th, 2013 at 12:20pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    That's what I tried to tell this girl. Like, it's part of me to carry the weight on my hips/thighs/butt area and no matter how much weight I lose, these areas will always end up looking plump/round, but I can tone them so I don't end up with jell-oh ass. She's just like "I'm going to love my obesity and nobody can advise me to be healthy".
    July 28th, 2013 at 12:18pm
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Genetics to play a role, but it's not the entirety of how your body is going to look. If you actually work for it and look after yourself you can avoid being so unhealthy. That's what these people fail to see.
    July 28th, 2013 at 12:09pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    @ The Zac
    So true. Of course genetics, metabolism and body structure have some meaning, but that's not an excuse for sitting on your ass all day drinking coke and complaining about skinnier people. If these people actually like being obese, good for them, but then stop complaining. Calling themselves chubby insults me, like, I don't look like that and I actually make an effort to not end up like that by eating normal food and at least taking a long walk everyday.
    July 28th, 2013 at 11:28am
  • The Zac

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    @ Kinki Jinki
    Yeah exactly. I think they rather dismiss it as being "curvy" or "full bodied". Surely it must be harder to convince yourself of that bullshit than it is to exercise and not eat shitty foods all the time.
    July 28th, 2013 at 11:23am