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I see where you're going with this, and I agree in a way. I feel like nobody around that age should be having sex unless they are educated about how their bodies function, along with the consequences of STI's and/or unwanted pregnancies (I could be wrong, but from what I know, most schools only start educating students on those matters around that age)... AND if they are willing to deal with the said possible consequences should they happen. And assuming that most 13 year olds don't want to deal with being a parent/abortions or deal with STI's, they are not prepared at that age.

All I'm saying is that being ignorant about those aspects of sex could really affect their lives if the worst were to happen.

@ Robin 'The Sidekick'
Saying WHAT HE FUCK ARE YOU EVEN THINKING is incredibly disrespectful

@ LettersToNormandy
Well, I'm sorry my words hurt you. But I've seen people I love hurt because the person they're supposed to trust doesn't give two craps about them and goes around having sex with whoever without caring at all. That is what I find dirty. Once again, everyone has their own opinion. I'm not someone who calls people sluts because they aren't virgins, but for me, I would consider myself dirty if I went around having sex with anyone just for the heck of it. You may feel as if there's no strings attached, but the other person might not feel the same way.

People forget that sex requires two people, two personalities, two feelings. So you may never know what the other person is thinking. Again, this is my opinion, so you may feel different. And I'm sorry if what I said hurt your feelings. But that is what I feel. Your opinion is that having sex with anyone because of the way you've been hurt is alright and that having a relationship and doing it is wrong for you, well, vice versa for me.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
How is saying that a thirteen year old shouldn't be having sex, "disrespecting a whole group of people"?

@ Robin 'The Sidekick'
Um. Wowie. I really wasn't going to say anything, but your last line honestly really upset me.

"What I see as dirty is when people don't care who they're giving it away to, going from person to person, not respecting themselves."

I don't think that's a very nice thing to say, and honestly it's a bit judgmental. Take into consideration the people who don't see sex as the be-all end-all; I certainly don't. Take people who are emotionally damaged and do not want the emotional ties that come with a relationship because the mere thought hurts them; I just watched my parents' marriage fall apart after I learned my mother was having an affair and my father's been having them on and off since I was two. The last guy I was interested in (a virgin I might add, who I never did anything more than kiss) up and vanished after promising to see me one day and I haven't seen him in two years. I'm still not over that. I don't trust relationships. I don't want a relationship. I don't want to be emotionally attached to someone.

I sure as hell don't understand why my sexual activities with people who have agreed that we are mutually physically attracted only and want nothing more is "dirty." I've slept with three men this summer whom I have no emotional attachment to. Not because I don't have "respect" for myself as you say, but because I don't see a point in depriving myself of physical relationships with people I am interested in simply because I am not willing and able to throw myself into something emotionally.

I'm sorry, but that really wasn't a very kind thing to say.

@ Robin 'The Sidekick'
Disrespecting a whole group of people is wrong.

@ dru vs. slut shaming
Alright, bro. Clearly she has your opinion and you do yours. I agree with her 100% No thirteen year old should be having sex. You just freaking started puberty. And if she said it in a not so calm tone, respect it too because, just remember that this is about her cousin. And anyone would be upset in that situation.

I'm a 100% virgin in every way shape and form. Being a virgin doesn't make you a saint but it doesn't make you a bad person either. Same goes to people who aren't virgins. Also, I've never seen having sex as dirty. What I see as dirty is when people don't care who they're giving it away to, going from person to person, not respecting themselves.

I think WishingOnDeadStars put it the best way I see. At 13 we are still children. Below 17 we are still minors. And if you are in Texas, it's against the law to do any sexual acts before 17. I would be highly disappointed in my cousin in she was doing sexual acts at 13. People are raised differently, some don't see sex as anything more than sex. Others see it as a right of passage and some see it as dirty. Depends on the person.

I'm not saying, nor do I think you are either, that anyone who does have sex at an early age are wrong and disgusting. I personally didn't, I will raise my children not to and I will expect them to follow my rules. I think sex is something amazing that two mature people should participate in. That's just what I see it as. Children aren't mature and I feel that they shouldn't be having intercourse unless they understand what comes with that responsibility. Which is rare in children.

Also, I did not see you shame anyone but your cousin. Which only you know the whole story about. Though I found it a tad harsh when you stated doing any sexual acts means someone is tainted. I understand that is your opinion and how you were raised. So I'm not going to judge you on that. I'm also truly sorry that you are disappointed in your cousin. It's hard to grow up with people and see them down a path you wouldn't imagine for yourself.

That's my input though.

I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, but having sex at thirteen shouldn't (and isn't, in my opinion) ok. Thirteen is still a child, and children shouldn't be having sex. I personally don't believe they are responsible enough or mature enough to have intecourse (My opinion, I'm not shaming), especially if it ends up in pregnancy. I understand your point @ just vogue. I'd shake my cousin or sisters if they ever told me they had sex at thirteen. I'm sixteen and never been kissed - you aren't alone,@ saeglopur ;) - so really, I guess my thoughts don't matter, but I'm just throwing them out there.

Your thirteen year old cousin is more experienced than me. Seventeen and never been kissed.....

@ just vogue.
It's a hurtful opinion. If I'm of the opinion all women are whores it's still not a polite thing to say.

@ dru's sick and tired
It's just my opinion.

@ just vogue.
Right, but the way you worded it wasn't as 'I think 13 is too young' it was 'WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU EVEN THINK YOU'RE DOING?' How is that not supposed to offend someone?

@ dru's sick and tired
Okay...? I'm sorry I didn't mean to slut shame I just thought it was too young was all.

Your incredibly directory and patronizing tone suggests you are implying they should be ashamed of their sexually immoral (to you) behavior, which is the definition of slut shaming.

@ G-Dragon;
I don't think having sex is dirty, that's just--whoever thinks that is a prick, but when I heard that my cousin had done that at that age I was just kind of surprised. I've accepted it and shit, and I'm definitely not judging her or anyone who's done it at that age, I just thought that it was too young, if you get me?

@ just vogue.
I just hear it a lot, people actually think that way.
It's a scary thought.

I got downed a lot for having sex, but I suppose people are still in that train of thought where having sex is deviant and dirty...idk. I didn't mean to come off as rude if I did, it was not my intention.

@ G-Dragon;
I'm sorry that you took it that way, I honestly didn't mean to offend anyone or 'slut-shame'.

A virgin is someone who has not had sex. They are not pure that are not "innocent" or heavenly.. they just haven't had sex. You have slut shamed by saying that that if you're not a virgin, you're not pure... basically saying that anyone who has had sex is dirty. Which isn't true. Sex is sex. It's not bad, it's not evil it's just that.

I lost my virginity at 13, to a 19 year old. I wasn't "tainted" I had sex.. end of story.

Being a virgin doesn't make anyone a perfect little snowflake...

@ dru's sick and tired
How have I slut-shamed them?