Skinny Shaming - Comments

@ Tholomew Plague It's not something you solely think because you just revealed that you have said/written things like that before; you are contradicting yourself.

I'm getting confused here. Your friend says that she is staying skinny only to fit in and because it's expected of her, but she says that she is happy with herself. If she truly didn't care what people thought of her, she wouldn't be trying to be skinny to fit in. She wouldn't care what society thought about her.

And I hate when people say, "That's just the way the world is, we must live by it." If people continually thought this way, racism and sexism would still be extremely detrimental to minorities and women. We live in a dynamic world and shouldn't try to make it so stagnant; it's bothering as we must as always improve. I don't deny that people must build self-confidence, yet society must learn that they shouldn't terrible people in the process. Even if that means holding your tongue on a less than polite remark

@ Tholomew Plague
I don't know what comment you're referring to... Honestly, I'm not even like hiding here, the comments I showed were all things that have been said to me before. I don't go out stalking comments and putting them here. And with all due respect, saying ‘I've been a stick, so I can say it’ is like me saying ‘I'm Hispanic, so I can say that Hispanics are [negative comment]’. It's just really disrespectful. I understand that it's your opinion, go ahead. I don't find guys who are built like rocks attractive, but I don't say ‘meatheads gross me out’. It's just nice not to be so rude about it. Just because it's someone's opinion that people of a certain shape are unattractive and they're rude about doesn't mean it's fine, it shouldn't be tolerated. Stuff like that can hurt someone, it's hurt me and I don't think it should be tolerated or that we should ‘just deal with it’.

I can see your collarbone. Thats what I was referring to. And I dont make a comment to think, it's what I think to myself. I've been there, so I know the feeling. It may be considered rude, but its my opinion and I stand by it. Also, alot of them don't actually have disorders. My friend is stick thin, and she has admitted she's only doing it to fit in. it's not an image problem, she thinks it's expected of her. She loves herself, and laughs it off when people tell her to go eat. Shes happy with herself, no matter what people think. My point is, who cares what my opinion is, I dont say it to their face. Im not running up and smooshing a cake into their mouth. I just feel like society is too sheltered. People need to have some sort of backbone. I get called a fat bitch all the time, I was also made fun of when i was unnaturally skinny, but thats their opinion, its just how the world is. I've accepted it. Anyway, Im off, got work to do :) Have a nice day.

@ Tholomew Plague If it's for looking good, there is obviously a problem backing that, and still rudeness shouldn't be tolerated just because it's your preference. I've seen some super skinny people in my day, just like any day, and I find no aesthetic attraction towards them but I don't call them out as "disgusting" or "gross." It's just not polite or nice; it's not necessary. If anything, that might fuel their self-image crisis even more if they are already struggling with body image. I mean, kids used to make fun of me at school for being "Barbie" size or too skinny, and it made me distrust my body more.

And to be honest, you can't even really see my body in my profile pictures.

And looking at your profile pictures, you actually dont seem that bad, Im talking about like...I dont even know how to describe it, extremely knocking on deaths door skinny, you look more healthy skinny to me. Sorry if there was confusion. haha

@Usako

Im not talking about naturally being built that way, I am aware that people can be built that way. I am talking about the girls that do it because it's 'pretty'. It isnt. And yes, I may sound like i'm being rude about it, but truth is, Thats how I feel. If your naturally like that, I understand, and it's different. If it's just for looking good, it's sickening.

Tholomew Plague:

The fact that you can see these girls ribcages, disgusts me, because society has told them it's pretty, Psh.

So I'm disgusting to you? I have a naturally skinny waist, and you can see my ribs (and collarbone, that's disgusting to some people too). There is a difference between having a preference and being rude about it.

I love that my comment was mentioned in this. Its not the actual people that gross me out, its that fact that if they are doing it just to look pretty, its kind of pathetic. Sticks do gross me out, i aint ashamed to think that, i have been a stick, so i have the right to say it. By sticks I mean people that do it, with a choice. I dont mean people who have eating disorders or anything like it. They gross me out, plain and simple, just like an extremely overweight person grosses me out. Its my personal opinion. I like people who are midish range. The fact that you can see these girls ribcages, disgusts me, because society has told them it's pretty, Psh.

@ Queen Obscene
Yeah, that's what I was trying to get at with this blog. If it's not okay to shame people who are overweight, how is it okay to shame someone who's underweight. Neither action is okay, it shouldn't be tolerated and, like you said, it's a step backwards.

@ Usako
It's not acceptable. It doesn't matter who you're shaming for whatever reason, it's not okay. Completely agree with you guys.

I think every body type is shamed in some way or form, some more so than others, but even so it's not right to do it at all. Comparing a "thin woman" to a neglected and abused dog is just as shameful as telling a bigger woman to lose some weight or calling her a whale. Like Queen Obscene said, redirecting criticism to support one body type really defeats the purpose.

It does annoy me when I'm told that because I'm thin I'm not a woman, but the reason it really pisses me off is because it's not a step forwards. Redirecting the criticism isn't going to make anything better for anyone.

@ dru brings sexy back
I'm not saying that skinny people face the exact same problems as heavier people for their weight. Society definitely favours those women. But again, that's not what I meant in the blog, and that's not what I meant in my response either. I was addressing the women who look skinny enough that they look 'sick'. All the women in those magazine covers and movie roles were not the kind of 'skinny' I was addressing.

I completely understand what you're saying, but that's not what I wanted to bring attention to.

@ Mogar
How many really thin women got magazine covers this year? Movie roles? I have to disagree with you. Skinny is everywhere. It's impossible to miss

@ dru brings sexy back
I see what you mean, but I didn't mean it like that. Yeah, you get discriminated for your weight if you're overweight for jobs and stuff- I definitely don't think that's right, at all. I don't think that should be tolerated, just like being made fun of for being skinny shouldn't. While writing this, I wasn't think of that aspect to it.

I see what you're saying and all but, I disagree. If you're really really thin, you're seen as this person who's sick, you look deathly sick and you're probably not going to be given those roles either. You are seen as someone who needs to fix themselves if you're really really thin. That's the way I see it, don't know if it applies, but it's just my opinion.

dup, sorry

I'm a size 2/4, so I'm considered "thin" by society's standards. I agree with you that skinny shaming is a bad thing. No one should be shamed about their body for any reason.

However, I definitely see the difference. It's very apparent in our media. While you may get told to eat because you're skinny, you are not denied parts in movies because of your weight, you are not denied jobs because of your weight, you are not deemed as a project to be fixed because of your weight.

It's still an asset to you.

And that's the difference to me.