I Just Want To Cry (and am need of someone to lend a girl a hand) - Comments

I feel for you on this, went thru the same thing.

What I realised, from my experience, is that it's not his fault if he still has residual feelings for his ex, most people do, they just never admit it. First of all, I would just take it as a positive that he even told you something like that, it must have been hard for him to admit it, especially if he know's it may scare you away.

In my opinion, you need to call him and talk about it in depth. It may hurt you to hear it, but ask questions about why he still like's his ex. Maybe he just needs someone to talk it out with? He has to let go of those feeling's, especially if she is not coming back to him, and if you are interested in him, then I personally would make a point to be the one that he talked to about it.

If he thinks you love him, care about him and are willing to deal with his emotions, from experience, I can tell you that it will go a long way into making him feel secure with you.

I think you just need to be a little understanding, from reading this it sounds like he's hurt about being dumped like that because of something so trivial, and to me, it sounds like he's scared of getting into a long distance thing and it happening all over again with you.

I really hope you two can work this out, it sounds to me like he want's to like you, but his past is holding him back. He need's to let it out.

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First thing's first, how does your friend feel about you? From your perspective, I'm not really seeing what he is looking for to be honest, and it would help to know what he's looking for from you.

And to be honest, if he's still hooked on his ex, don't get your hopes up. I'm sorry to sound harsh, but if you still wanted to get back together with someone you really liked and cared for, would you give someone else a chance or wait, hope, and remain open to your ex if they ever decided to come back?

My long distance relationship didn't work out, but that doesn't mean I'm against them. If the two people want to work for it, and actually put in the work, things will work out. If he's saying things won't work out now, would that change in the future?

I think you need to tell this guy to stop calling you those terms of endearment, and anything else that might trigger these feelings for him. Do whatever it takes to get over him, if you want to, that is. Or tell him to sort himself out before going to you.

I'm sorry, I just had to put my two cents in there, I don't mean to be rude or offensive. I hope everything works out for you in the end.