Victims of Bullying Should "Suck It Up"? - Comments

Bullies will never be dealt with and will always win. Something I found out and am reminded of day in, day out.

I have PTSD and a phobia of schools due to how badly I was bullied. I wasn't even safe in my own bedroom, they got caught breaking into my room with a knife.

Every single day is a struggle for me, even my real name is a trigger but my mother wont let officially change it. The town I grew up in which the closest big place to where I live is a trigger too.

Unfortunately it happens in adulthood just as much as at school. As far as I'm concerned this world is hell. there is no bright spot, no warmth, just hell. And I have a son who I have to send to the deepest part of hell every weekday. I detest myself for putting him through that. I just keep telling myself, this is his experience not mine.

People who say to suck it up are evil

I've been told to suck it up so many times that I've lost count. I told the school about my bullying numerous times, and they've done absolutely nothing but told me to get over it. I told them about the worst things that have ever happened to me; things I find really hard to talk about, and was told that my problems were insignificant to them. I'm 16 years old and I've attempted suicide seven times because of bullying, and people will always tell me to suck it up and get over it.

It's bullshit.

I agree that in a perfect world, it should work like this, with the bully always being removed/punished/dealt with in some way. But the fact of the matter is, it's not a perfect world. You have to stand up for yourself and get your shit together and defend yourself. You cant expect other people to fight your battles for you.

I went to small elementary school with one bully in our class of about 26. He would pick on almost anyone, especially the girls. But for me, he was almost never an issue because I made it perfectly clear that I was not going to be pushed around. Now, not everyone is like me obviously. Not everyone can be like "fuck you, I'm not going to be pushed around."

And that's the problem. Because raising generations of fragile pushovers who are easily susceptible to depression and suicide is not okay. Yes, bullies are and always will be in the wrong, but not defending yourself and not fighting for yourself is not just "okay." Yes, in a perfect world everyone would feel secure physically and emotionally but this is the real world where sometimes you feel threatened and it's normal and you need to get the fuck over it or change what you don't like.

I don't think that the victim of bullying should ever be blamed for the pain they went through or anything of the sort but I do think that people need to toughen up ("suck it up") and deal with their problems instead of going into some sort of shell and getting depressed and suicidal. Depression is not something that is "normal", it is usually a chemical imbalance that should be treated, not just left stagnant and unchanging. A person with depression shouldn't be felt sorry for and treated like fine china, they will be treated like everyone and held accountable for their actions or lack there of.

I feel like this could go either way. I was bullied two years ago, and it really took a toll on my well-being. I had to make new friends and literally start my life over. If someone had told me to just "suck it up" back then I probably would've been extremely hurt and offended.

However, if someone was to say this to me this year, I'd probably agree. I still see the people who bullied me (some are in my classes) but I just try to not let them get to me, since they don't bother me anymore. And yeah, sometimes I get bad depression and I'm not as outgoing as I used to be, but I've got good friends and I'm doing okay while they've only got each other and no one else likes them. So, in the grand scheme of things, I'm all right.

Ugh and it sucks when people say that, some probably mean "Move on with your life. You're here, and they're there" (maybe the bully is now living nowhere and with little to no money and the person that was bullied is living the good life). But...for the most part people are just rude :/

My sister used this line on me, I wasn't offended though, instead I got a job and am now on my way to getting a truck. The boy guy that bullied me now has a kid, living on a very bad pay, not with the mother of the child, and last I heard he was kicked out of his home.

I'm living comfortably, yeah...I still get these bad panic attacks and severe depression because of the Schizoaffective, but I march on. Which to be honest I sound like a broken record with those words, but it's true.

Other than that little information I agree. I don't like that statement being used either. -__-'