Up late and thinking about honesty - Comments

@ swell

As weird as this sounds, I think that there has to be such thing as dishonesty. Otherwise we probably wouldn't value the idea of truth and honesty so much, you know what I mean? I think that everything we value needs a counterweight, otherwise we wouldn't realize how important it was and we wouldn't hold it in such high esteem. So I guess I should be less annoyed more often and accept the fact that sometimes just keeping the truth to myself makes me appreciate the moments I am brutally honest, a little more worth it.

I'm going to have to try that sometime. Usually with the sensitive ones I keep it to myself until I absolutely cannot and have to say something otherwise if it keeps happening around me I will go nutso. These days I let things slide because I'm not in the mood to listen to someone be offended after I've told them the truth. And then it annoys me because I'm like, 'well you wanted the truth and I gave it to you, and now you're offended? What?'

OH GOD that is so annoying. Oh my lord my friend used to do the same thing but my other friend sat her down and was like, 'oi. Shut up, your problems are not problems so stop making them to be problems' but she said it in a way that made my friend listen and now she doesn't do it anymore. Literally a miracle.

Usually, honesty rocks, but sometimes it sucks and I hate that it sucks because it shouldn't suck. If more people were honest, life would be so much easier. I really detest it when people can't be honest to my face. Especially when they pride themselves on being honest and then not show that all.

In that situation now and it's causing me problems

@ swell

See, that is exactly the kind of person I am. A lot of people come to me because they want the absolute truth and most people take it absolutely fine. When I can't find a nice way to say something, depending on the person, I always say, "I've really worked on trying to say this were it doesn't sound awful, but maybe if you hear it this way, you'll understand." That usually works well.

I think it bothers me because I have without a doubt always listened. I'm the first one to listen, and if she doesn't want me to, I don't say anything. I'm a strong believer in venting, getting out what's bothering you, so I always try and do that with people. It's the never ending idea that everything bad happens to them when really, they're creating this phantom problem in their head, seeing things as problems when they aren't problems; they're situations.

We've been discussing honesty A LOT in my theories of communications class, so I think I may actually ask my teacher on the side. He really likes me, so I think he may at least give me some sort of vague answer that I can attempt to grasp.

I'm sorry this was equally long! I really fucking dig your answers. Always

I feel you on so many levels.

I'm completely honest and I've always prided myself on my honesty, no matter how blunt or bitchy I may seem. My friends come to me if they want complete honesty and they know not to ask me if they want a nice answer. I used to say whatever was on my mind, but now I'm a little more conscious of what I say, because I don't want to offend anyone. Or if I'm with a certain friend, I'll be nicer about the way I word things because she's super sensitive.

My friend does this thing where she plays the victim and it drives me bananas, but if I tell her that, she'll cry or hate me or turn everyone against me (not likely but you never know) and like far out, you know? FAR OUT.

As for your question, I have no idea. It's like one of those things where you lose either way. I guess the only thing you could do is to either is ignore it (hard I know) or just pull her aside and be like 'yo shut up' or you know, something nicer. If she's desperate for a pity party, she probs just wants someone to listen and maybe if she has someone to listen to then she'll stop projecting her ways on others?

This has been super long. My bad. I just really dig your blogs ok