February 12th, 2014 at 05:38am
Hi!
So, Im reading and I'm wondering something. Why should you change yourselves to make a relationship better? That just isn't how it works. But to talk about things that may irritate you about one another, that's something different. They are quirks, and you can let him know that or not. Or vise-versa. But ya'll shouldn't be changing you two in general, but instead the focus should be entirely on the relationship. What do you guys need to fix? What do you guys think, or believe, that you are missing/lacking? Does that make sense :/?
Yeah... I probably worded that really wrong as I was just in the heat of the moment trying to get my incoherent thoughts out before they completely destroyed me. But it's not so much, but improve on, I guess you could say. But yes, that does make sense. Part of it is, yes the fact that we both suck at communication and that has to change. Like, communication is key and we need to learn to be better at communicating with one another. But as we talked more it wasn't so much as I'm making him unhappy or that he's unhappy in the relationship. He has to deal with a minor form of depression. Something he's had to deal with almost his whole life, and he does want to sort of reevaluate himself and stay with me while he does that. It's a whole new ball game for him, but he wants us to work just as much as I do. So, we're slowing down the pace and he appreciates that I don't intend to "fix" him or change him. And change isn't always bad. Sometimes you have to do it for yourself in order to grow as a person, and he may be 23, but he's still learning and growing just as much as I am. And as I told him, I'm going to be here for him when he needs me, dating or not, I'll always care and worry about him and make sure that he's okay, because that's the kinda person I am. I may grow attached easily, but I'm loyal as fuck, excuse my language. And sorry about the long response. I really do need to keep a journal. xD