Calling All BDSM Lovers!! - Comments

  • Beard

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    I love how good writers portray subspace. Like anyone can throw something kinky into sex and call it BDSM but its not about the kinks its the relationship between the dom and sub so I like when writers focus more on that. Also roleplaying, like pet play and things like that.
    March 1st, 2014 at 01:44pm
  • john 5.

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    oh gosh i love bdsm!! i'm actually a femdom in real life; it's my job haha. so obviously i love femdom and would LOVE to see more of that out there.

    (most of my writing is bdsm so i guess if you'd like to get a better idea of what i like to read it's by what i've written.)

    i lovelovelove cute/gentle bdsm. but i also love some really brutal/extreme bdsm. i also would want to read about different dynamics than just usual dom/sub stuff? so i mean, daddy doms, cuckolding, service submission, animal role play (puppy/kitten/pony etc play), alpha/f*ggot, etc. or different implements instead of just hand spanking (floggers, canes, paddles, single tail whips, riding crops).

    also if we're being honest i really just want to see more realism. so bdsm/kink negotiation, talk about limits, scene planning, safe words, safety precautions, and AFTERCARE!! there's so little realism that i do worry that a lot of bdsm i see in fanfic is giving teenagers a bad impression of the community and its dynamics sometimes for that reason.
    February 28th, 2014 at 08:15am
  • Airi.

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    I would love to see a BDSM story with aftercare in it. Most BDSM stories I've read have absolutely no mention of aftercare and it's a bit off putting. Aftercare is such an important part of a healthy BDSM relationship that I'd like to see more stories mention it at least a little, even if it never goes in depth.

    I also would love to see my breath play/autoerotic asphyxiation, but realistic. Breath play is probably one of my favorite things when it comes to BDSM but it scares so many people that most ignore it. If it is acknowledged, it's completely unrealistic. So I'd love a realistic display of breath play. It'd make me happy lol. tehe

    One thing I despise is rape play. I see this in so many stories where people think BDSM = rape and it's just... No. I'm tired of seeing rape everywhere in BDSM fics. It's tiresome and it's, in my opinion, perpetuating the negative stereotypes against BDSM.

    Less negatively, I also love to see the use of toys like vibrators, beads, and whips. There's a lot of different kinds of whips so it's interesting to see which type the writer goes with. Begging is nice too as long as it's not over done.

    I would also love to see a story where it's more than sex, you know? BDSM takes a lot of trust between the dom and sub. Someone isn't just going to let a stranger tie them up and gag them, it's not realistic. So many BDSM fics are focused on only sex and miss one of the most important parts of BDSM.
    February 28th, 2014 at 01:12am
  • heretic.

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    I like reading about BDSM, a lot. I like it to be done realistically though. It's not all about rough sex and spanking, it's about trust, first and foremost. That's what I like. Yes, a big part of it is control, but the submissive has to have complete trust in his or her Dom to be able to do those things. Sorry, I'm rambling. I like to read about more than just the sexual relationship, I like to read about Doms taking care of their subs, treating them well in all aspects of life, not just the bedroom. Too many stories these days just focus on the sex part of it, when in reality, it's a whole lot more. I'm not dissing any other stories or novels here, just putting my two pennies worth in, haha. I like bondage, sensory deprivation, handing over complete control to your dominant to do with you, how they please. I like reading about water sports, humiliation, and yes, hair pulling, spanking, very rough sex. Biting, scratching, marking, I do love a biter tehe Lots of teasing, orgasm denial, dirty talk.
    February 27th, 2014 at 11:26pm
  • fen'harel

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    There's nothing that turns me off the most out of a BDSM fic when there's no consent given or the Dom doesn't respect the sub's wishes and limits. I've read countless of stories in which the Dom just continues to do whatever they want despite the sub using the safe word, or where the Dom thinks that if the sub consented to a particular kind of sexual act (let's say a footjob) then that's green light for any other sex act (let's say anal sex); like, no. Consent to one thing =/= consent to another.

    So, basically, I look for BDSM fics in which the limits and boundaries of each of the parties is respected and consent is not just "implied", but given enthusiastically by both parties.

    Another thing that I like is when there's mention of aftercare. That demonstrates to me that the BDSM relationship its a mutually caring one in which both parties want to make each other feel great.

    When it comes to kinks, I love bondage (ropes are just awesome) and when there's teasing. I also love orgasm denial to men when they're on the sub position; like, teasing them and then withdrawing when they look like they're about to cum. Ummm Think I also like gagging when giving a blow job and I think that's about it XD

    Oh, forgot! I love seeing the use of clamps in nipples and genitals as well as other toys like vibrators, dildos, anal beads, etc.
    February 27th, 2014 at 11:15pm
  • Angelina Shadows

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    Oh and you don't have to worry about me talking about fifty shades I've never read it lol
    February 27th, 2014 at 11:04pm
  • Angelina Shadows

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    I like the whole idea of BDSM to be honest. I love the idea of bondage, being completely vulnerable to the person and unable to do anything about it really gets me going, bonded and fucked me likey ;) I also love the idea of a Dom and a Sub as well. Being able to control a person and tell them what to do all kinds of different sexual things or having someone tell me what to do is so fucking hot. Hair pulling, face slapping, biting, scratching, all that shit gets me going. I don't really care if the male is the dom and the female is the sub or vice versa I like it either way. I also love all types of role play, dirty talk, food play, rape play, all that shit so fucking hot, name calling and yeah. Love the idea of punishments, spanking, whipping, and sexual torture like withholding orgasm and making the person beg. Yeah, I could go on forever about all the things I like concerning BDSM but I think you get the idea haha. I am a BDSM Lover!!!!
    February 27th, 2014 at 10:50pm
  • weirdogirl1236

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    I like for the girl to be the dominant and hot wax
    February 27th, 2014 at 10:34pm
  • dombelova

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    I like daddy!, and rape play (not actual rape)
    February 27th, 2014 at 10:32pm