Friends and their opinions on self harm - Comments

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Seriously. That's a huge accomplishment and you should be so proud of yourself. I'm so happy for you.

Second of all, those people are definitely not your friends. One time, I confided in someone who I thought was my best friend that I'd cut myself, and she told me that I wasn't cool for doing it and it made me a freak. It sucks that there are such cruel people out there, but you just have to remove them from your life and move on. And don't let that discourage you from making new friends. Humans crave companionship by nature, it's an okay thing. Find people who make you feel good and go from there!!

But seriously, congrats on the 300 mark. Here's to the next 300!! (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

I've had family tell me that they don't like it when I do it and to stop. They don't know that it makes me want to do it more. I cut to feel THAT pain instead of the pain inside me and I can say I haven't done it in almost a year. I still feel like doing it, but I don't because I'm learning to deal with my emotions. As for your friends, they don't know what it's like to cut. They don't understand it's nearly impossible NOT to do it when you're in that dark place. For me, I used to HAVE to cut, like an obsession and if I didn't do it, it made me more anxious. I wish you the best and maybe you can inform your friends about cutting instead of letting them think they know what you went through? If not, then I'd say they don't want to understand and that's not a definition of a friend. Hugs xx

Those people aren't your friends, friends care. They would have congratulated you. I have a friend who told me she was a month or so without self harm and it made me happy, because in this world, nobody deserves to feel so depressed and down that they need to cause themselves harm. I think you're a strong individual and I'm happy for you, and the fact that you survived.
You're stronger now<3

I think the sad part is that they don't know where you've been, and they're judging you because of it. Even for someone who does, I cannot definitively tell you that I know where you have been. I, however, can appreciate the fact that you have survived the dark times thrown at you. You're stronger now because of it. <3

I wouldn't call those people friends hun, that was really awful. Just because they don't have the heart to understand something like self-harm or have their own beliefs around it, they shouldn't say those stuff to you.

@ raw.
Totally understandable then. But it's still a lot to take in. I mean my dad says really mean stuff all the time to show he cares. It's weird, I know.

@ xMandiblesx
I can't stop talking to the two main ones as I'm doing a group project with them and I can't swap groups :( Thank you lovely x

@ The Human Slayer
Oh don't worry! It's just upset me the most as they have always said to me they'd be understanding and supportive but they didn't in that case.

Not everyone is going to be positive when they find out someone self harms. My dad thinks I'm messed up in the head. As people it isn't normal for us to go against our instincts and hurt ourselfs. A lot of people think it is "fucked up".

Not trying to defend them, but you can't just isolate yourself because of a common misunderstanding.

Omg.....that was awful of them to say! I wouldn't call them friends. I'd stop talking to them at all because obviously they don't care about your feelings! * hugs*