Feeling Neglected. - Comments

I always say that in a relationship it always has to be 50/50 like Gwen Stefani says, "All I know is you've got to me everything, nothing less cause you know I give you everything" and she's right it can't be one person making most of the effort, you deserve better; because every woman deserves to be treated like a princess

I can relate in the sense that I am in a committed long distance relationship and how important video dates are to me! We are currently 700 miles apart and have seen each other twice in person (a weekend last July and for two weeks in September) I can't complain though because in 11 days she will be here...for good! Our video dates (we used to use Skype but switched to oovoo the quality is so much better I would recommend it!) are so important to me and when things come up (either with me or her) I do feel let down! That being said we spend a lot of time on video (we actually sleep together with them up which is a new thing!) we have a friend who doesn't understand that sometimes we want to be alone and I do want to be the main focus when it's out date because my thing is if we were in person we wouldn't be texting or talking to others while on the date and I strive so hard to make it feel like we are actually together! So I understand completely how hard it is to be in a distant relationship and be let down when something gets in the way of your special time! Anyone would be! You guys have been together for over 3 years and I think you should be open and honest with him! That's the best thing for your relationship I promise! Tell him you feel unimportant, he needs to know how he is making you feel and hopefully he will get his act together! Good luck and if you ever need to talk I'm here!

@ valar morghulis
I've done the whole LDR over the internet before and, it sucks when you feel neglected.
A lot of things can go through your mind at those times and most of them are very stressful.

The best advice I can give you for right at this moment is, busy your mind. Do something that makes you feel good, and try to put him on the back burner for right now.

As on when you talk to him again, tell him how you feel. If you don't it might cause bigger issues later on. Just vent completely, but try to be as careful as possible. Sometimes guys can take things the wrong way real quick.

I wish you the best sweetheart!

@ Synical
Oh my! Aren't you a sweetheart.

I haven't told him, honestly. It's been a while since I've felt like this. I know things are rough because he's a full-time student and works, and I know he wants to have free time to go hang out with his friends and eat sushi and do whatever. But he could have at least told me "hey babe, I'm going out with the guys tonight", instead of just posting pictures on FB of it.

We have less than a year until our end-date, and it's really been taking a toll on me. We're so close, but so far. We've had rougher spots, yes, but I've never felt like this before, where I'm suddenly doubting everything we've worked so hard for. I don't know what it is, or what to do, really.

Not to sound like a creep but if you were my girlfriend, I'd never neglect you. I'm sorry he's being like that though. Some guys need things like right in their face or they get distracted easily. Long distance relationships are tough but they can work if both parties are willing to put in effort. Have you told him you feel neglected? If so, how does he respond?

Maybe next time you should be like "your boring babe, lemme talk" hahahaha. xD

No don't do that, ._. but yeah, just throw yourself into something, and the time will fly.

@ Queen In The North
It's not that I'm necessarily dependent on him for my happiness. It just sucks when he blows our plans off for sushi and creating cosplay costumes or whatever it is you do for cons. Seems like that's all we talk about now, what he's doing. I mean, I know he cosplays. I've known it since before we started dating, it just sucks though. It's not fun being 400 miles from the person you love, and all you want is a little attention.

But I'm going to suggest what you said and try to write some. I just feel very neglected right now, and it suuuucks.

Those feels.

Honestly, when this happened to me with an ex, I threw myself into my writing and finding things to do to keep my mind off it, and it actually worked. I felt happy and I felt like I was in control of everything. My boyfriend eventually realised that I wasn't dependant on him for my happiness, so he started to shape up. Perhaps it may work for you? xxxxx