May 22nd, 2014 at 09:45am
@ house of cards.
I agree. And I don't think premarital sex is bad either, but I can at least understand why someone might want to wait. The not living together thing just honestly doesn't make a lot of sense to me. (And thanks!)
@ Anchor and Hope.
I agree. There is a lot my husband and I know about each other by now that we would never have known about each other if we hadn't lived together. (And thank you! I'll be posting about it soon, I hope.)
@ Lyra
To be honest, I agree. I just don't want to call something stupid when I don't understand someone's reasoning for thinking the way they do. But to me it's basically saying, "No, it is morally wrong and overall a terrible thing to do to live with someone for a few months before agreeing to live with them for the next 70 years." =/ There might be some dealbreakers you won't know about until it's too late that way. But thanks for your congratulations. I know he and I will have a great life together. =)
@ brienne.angel
I don't know how I feel about comparing something like a relationship to the purchase of a material object, but in a sense, yes. I think a person should really know what kind of person they're marrying before marrying them. If you want to see divorce rates lowered, make sure people know what marriage will be like before they commit to it, y'know? That's my view, anyway.
I think another good way to test the relationship is to get a pet, and then you can see how the other person is when it comes to doing the dirty work and devoting time and love to the 'baby' etc. That can show a lot about someone as well, especially if having a family is really important to one of the people, and then hopefully it will be less likely that after being married for a few years and having a kid or two that a divorce will be wanted.