I'd Love Some Advice [Including Selfie] - Comments

I am a mother or four and something that one my daughters said to me once has always stuck with me. She has always been my shyest and I'd become concerned if I thought she was biting off more than she chew. At one point she told me "Mom, If I fear something it only makes me want to do it more. I don't want my fear to control me I want t o control it." I was so proud of her when she said that but then I had to wonder, is that what she sees? Is that what I do, let my fear control my life? Maybe, I think so. She opened my eyes. Don't do the same. Don't let your fear control you. If you want to go go! You can deal with what may come up when it comes up. Have faith in yourself.

You're so welcome! Good luck :)

Thanks so much you guys <3 I told my friend that I'll go, so I have a week to work up the courage now. I wasn't expecting the compliments either, I'm extremely flattered!

@ CoolStory.Lynn
Thank you so much! I'm definitely going to do that :)

@ Aris.
That's a good point - she'd definitely understand if I needed to leave or whatever.

@ pet sounds
That's actually really helpful advice - I'll make sure I keep it in mind when I'm there, thank you! I'm sorry that you have it too, though - it's one of those things that absolutely sucks to deal with, but there's nothing else to be done. Also I had to google her to find out who Sherilyn Fenn is, but holy crap man, thank you!

@ sheepcat;
I get you - plus as the night goes on I'll probably be a bit tipsy so it should help my confidence. Even the people I don't know are nice, so it shouldn't be too bad. I get what you mean - they're all super loud and silly so I should be fine once I'm comfortable :) "you have the most control when you let go." is an amazing way of putting it, though, I'll be sure to keep that in mind! And thank you so much, also!

I agree with everyone else here; you should go and enjoy yourself. Even if you do just hang around the people you know, I generally find that I become so much more comfortable as it nears the end of the night. (I have both high anxiety levels and am super shy.)

Also, I went to a gig a few weeks ago and it was a similar situation, and everyone at the gig was just mucking about and really not caring about what they were doing, so if you kind of pick up on the mood and their attitude you can act accordingly? That sounded bad, I'm sorry. What I'm trying to say is go, see what everyone else is doing and just blend in. If they're making fools of themselves, they won't care if you make a fool of yourself.
I've also been told this recently, "you have the most control when you let go." I'm not sure if it works, but it sounds nice.

Sorry for the rambling, but you are gorgeous. Stunning.

It sounds crazy to be tied to someone, but once you get there it probably won't be as weird as it sounds you know? It's probably just a silly party game that will only last a few minutes. I have social anxiety too and for me I feel like everyone else knows how to act in those kinds of situations while I don't, but you must remind yourself that there's no special skill you need to 'act normal' or something. Just be yourself, and people won't think you're weird. Easier said than done, I know, but just remind yourself of that.

You're beautiful. You kind of remind me of Sherilyn Fenn.

I think you should definitely give it a try. If it goes wrong, you can always opt on your friend to get you out of there for whatever reason, or pretend you REALLY need the bathroom of something ^_^ P.S. you're gorgeous

Girl, get out there, you're gorgeous! Put on a nice dress or some nice ass jeans and a blouse, and have fun!