Why I'm Choosing to Save It for Marriage - Comments

Sometimes, distance and financial stabilities keep someone from getting married or living their lives with another person, even when they love that person dearly. I don't agree that, for a man to value and love a woman enough to earn her respect, he must wait until marriage. There are many beautiful and loving things a man can do to prove to a woman that she is the love of his life, and vice versa. I'm curious as to how sex can make you think you're in love with someone, especially if you've not had it. For me, some key characteristic about someone that I absolutely love can cloud my emotions and make me think I love them when I really only love something about them. Is that kind of what you mean?

I've only had two relationships and loved them before anything physical came of it (both started online, anyway). I found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, and we did not wait because he lives in another country and it will take a long time for us to get married. We like to stress the fact that marriage is a label and a symbol of union, but not the union itself. Love is the union. But, to each her own.

That's a tough question, we'd have to negotiate something. I'm looking for guy that will be brave enough to risk it. If we were meant to be together, things will work out fine in the end.

Just say you found a guy that you did love who was really nice and was willing to wait until you were ready to have sex, but didn't believe in marriage? Like, his parents got a divorce and it wasn't a nice experience and he doesn't want to go through that? Would you give him up because he wouldn't marry you?

I'm not objecting to your opinion or even disagreeing with it. I just don't like the blanket statement of "not until marriage" because some people just don't want to be married but love, from the bottom of their heart, their partner. I'm still a virgin and am likely to still be one when I'm 21 as well. I'm not religious or saving myself until marriage, but rather I think I'll wait until there's someone who doesn't care about sex and likes me for me, with my weird fear of sex and all.

Everyone has their own reasons. But I'm happy you are not embarrassed or pressured by yours.

Yeah it kinda did come off defensive didn't it? Thank you.

Wow. Mibba ate my comment the first time.

Anyway, this came off defensive, but I understand. I get it. I'm similar for I am also trying to save myself for marriage. So I see where you're coming from.