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@ kitsch sorry I forgot to tag you

Oh wow that I never experienced what's that kind of school like?

I like to think that I try to avoid drama as much as possible. (I attended an all girls high school so I am even more done with drama, if that's possible.) But then again, it's almost unavoidable because not all drama is bad---just like the meaning of consequences typically are seen as negative, when the definition of the word does not have that connotation.

But yeah, on the whole, I play on the safe side. Risk-tasking makes me nervous as hell.

@ kitsch so true drama always causes friction and sometimes it can be so draining. Do you deal with drama often or do you immediately seperate yourself from it?

I think some people can make friends but not keep them and sometimes it's because of drama and too many personalities / values clashing. There needs to be compromise and balance.

Yeah, I don't know her at all but if she was like that when she wasn't married, that. . .loneliness / clinginess probably intensified for whatever reason. Or she just didn't really undergo many changes that would cause her to be able to feel more secure in herself and ability to befriend others.

Whatever happens though, don't feel obligated to stick around if the friendship is doing more damage than good. A friendship, or any relationship for that matter, shouldn't be one sided.

@ kitsch omg no way that is crazy and yup me and her are like one yr apart in terms of our age & totally I like hanging with laid back people with no drama I think some people are not good at making friends or don't make an effort instead they cling unto us like that person did to both you & me and she is married too I think she needs to put that energy into her marriage

I understand---that is very immature considering the girl is in her twenties like yourself, right? The sad thing is, some people really are unable to handle things in a mature manner and that's what her behavior leans towards in the way she responds to certain situations.

I had a friend who was clingy in that sense---even went as far to talk about another of our friends while we were hanging out together. . .the friend had gone to the bathroom at that moment so it was intentional. Then she would constantly make it seem as if we were "closer" than we really were.

If you have to be so careful and wary of a person who you have befriended, I think it's safe to say you're going to have more moments that cross those boundaries / make you go "whaaa--?" or even upset you. I know I couldn't handle many friendships because of those many instances that made me realize I couldn't put my trust in them. (Therefore, I ended the friendships.)

I only got upset because instead of handling things like an adult when I calmly told her that I thought she was being clingy in an e-mail that she sent it to her mother and that to me was bizarre

Sadly, some people approach friendships differently and it doesn't seem like a "compatible match" since you seem panicky and probably will figure out ways to get out of talking/hanging out with her. I'm not sure what else to say besides trying to compromise with her without getting upset like the email fiasco.

Or sever all ties for good, if it's really that drastic. I don't know. My best friend is the only person I expect & really like that kind of dedication, so to speak, from.

She seems like the type of person whose friendships need to be very inclusive. It can be too much at times, and that's understandable. Regardless, best of luck to you in what you choose to do.