January 16th, 2015 at 04:53am
@ AmorarEsDeVivir
It's perfectly fine, I only brought up mine because it's the only relationship I concern myself with (I don't make a habit of knowing what's going on in other peoples is all) so I can only base things off my relationships. I don't mind what you're saying, not at all :)
Plus, It's kind of like a scientific study - Haha.
But in all seriousness, I do understand what you're saying - I guess when you've just been damaged as much as we have by others, there's no way of fixing it and we create our own patterns of dealing with things. It's all relative.
And with the 'Doesnt mean he won't cheat' thing - I'm blaming others, not him. Because I've seen girls trying to on with him, and of course he stops them but I still get filled with rage about it, because it's the audacity that people would do that and try and destroy something beautiful because of whatever reason. It makes no sense to me.
It must also be taken into account though at my opinion would be naturally warped as I view certain things as cheating, and others not. I'm a messed up unit and I can own that. xD
Different people view different things as cheating. Some people view meaningless flirting as cheating; my husband and I don't, because we both have always had friendships that involved a lot of sexual humor/innuendo and blatant flirting.
But like I said, for me personally, I don't care what other people might be trying to do with my husband--to me, part of trusting someone is trusting that regardless of someone else's intentions, his won't change, you know?
I don't think having different boundaries of what's cheating and what isn't makes you messed up, as long as it's not like "If you have any friends of the opposite sex whatsoever and talk to them ever at any point that's cheating" because healthy relationships should never interfere with one another regardless of whether they're romantic or not. Like, healthy romantic relationships shouldn't inhibit friendships and healthy friendships shouldn't inhibit romantic relationships, if that makes sense.
...I am getting overly wordy and I apologize.