Gender, Sexism, and Why You Can Be Who/Whatever You Want! - Comments

@ cloud nymph
Ah you're welcome! <3 I actually feel as if I may be a bit genderfluid, but the feeling isn't strong enough to act upon. Continue being yourself!

This means so much to me, though. Thank you so much. Recently realizing I'm genderfluid and really expressing it by buying myself societal "boy clothes" has really made me feel so much more me and I couldn't be happier. My babe sent this to me and really, I greatly appreciate it, and you, for putting it out there. You da real MVP

As an ace (whooole other subject there) that's dating someone that's genderfluid, all I have to say is:

I'm agender and I am so sick and tired of people saying "yeah but.. what are you really?" I'm agender.. And, then they go on saying that there are only boys and girls, so I need to stop with the special snowflake attitude, and it is so annoying. It is so annoying to be constantly referred to as the wrong gender/ referred to with the wrong pronouns/ to be completely thrown under the bus because our society is so obsessed with binary systems that we refer to dogs as males and cats as females (and often, cats are seen as 'sexy' animals, but that's a whole 'nother topic).
I've had to get used to a lot of different things - like websites making sure I list a gender or I won't be able to sign up, no longer flinching when I hear hate speech from family members directed towards trans people, and being told my gender is fake.

Amen to this entire blog, seriously. I don't understand why people feel the need to try and force their own beliefs on somebody else. I was raised where one half of my family were incredibly staunch Catholics and I spent half of my childhood with people trying to reinforce that 'gay is bad' and 'everybody is born either a girl or a boy' or whatever. Sure, that might be someone's opinion, but you shouldn't try and force that one someone else if they don't think like that. It just doesn't make sense to me. Whatever people wanna identify with, I'm cool with it because it really isn't my place to say anything. I identify as what I want, others identify with what they want. I don't get why that's such a difficult concept to grasp, seriously.

And the whole idea of gender norms / how people should dress irritates me in general. I was always a really active kid, I played football and tennis and I always remember people telling my mother that I'd 'turn out to be a lesbian' in later life, just because I used to wear a lot of boy's clothes and play 'boy sports'. Hell, I still dress in boy's clothes and if I hadn't screwed up my knee years ago, I'd still be playing football. For starters, I resent the idea that they were kinda... I don't know, threatening seems like a strong word, but I don't like how they insinuated that me being a lesbian would have been a bad thing.

I mean, I wear boy's shirts because they're more comfortable and because I'm not comfortable with my body. Likewise when people remark about how I almost never wear dresses. That'd be because I don't like my legs and I'm more comfortable in jeans. I don't see why I, or anyone else for that matter, should have to conform to what society sees as the 'acceptable' version of being female. I identify as female. I dress in jeans and oversized shirts. Doesn't change who I am and it shouldn't give people a free pass to criticise me.