September 4th, 2015 at 04:25am
It's OK to feel worried. Uni's a big and life-changing thing, it's definitely worthy of worry!
The + of applying for uni while still at school is that you have all of the school's relevant resources at your disposal. I don't know how it differs from school to school, but I'm sure there's a person whose job is specifically to help uni-to-be students out. I had to visit one when I was in college, she was really chill about it and tbh I expected her to be really intimidating because I had no f'in clue what I wanted to do with my life after college.
She laid out my options for me then and there and the conversation lasted literally only like 3 minutes which shocked me! She even made a relevant call for me, I can't remember what it was about, but it felt like a life-saver at the time because I get so worked up about having to make or take phone calls (
).All I can think to say with regard to the question of getting into the number 1 choice uni is probably going to be unusual but I reckon that if you get yourself excited about it - put your all into going to that uni, then passing the requirements might come more naturally. Also, if by fluke of a chance it doesn't, what's the worst that can happen? Negative emotions might attack for a while but it won't be everlasting. There's no real harm in committing yourself to striving for something like this - it's all in the mind. As long as you set up a pillow or two to fall on in terms of other unis then all's well!
Let me just say, because I can, even if you couldn't make it into any uni for whatever reason at this time it's not the end. I'm living proof of this. You can go to uni when you're 50!
With regard to the gender issue, again I'm not sure how each uni will differ, but on the on-line housing application for my uni I could choose several specific options such as whether I wanted to be situated in a 'quiet zone', with/without boys (so if you put your gender on the system it should give the option with/without girls I'm assuming?) etc.
Even if not, I think there was a blank box for additional requests.
& to me it seems like your family want to accept but they're still emotionally sulking? Could be wrong. Over time let's hope they grow tired of it and adjust, but a perfect opportunity to create some space should it be needed is of course uni!
&& I was loling at the stereotype of boys wearing no make-up and having only short hair. When I first was introduced to K-pop and J-pop, my first reaction was negative. I thought it was really weird and couldn't understand why they dressed like that. But as I found myself watching more and more MVs, wanting to understand what my friend saw in them, I gradually accustomed to these new styles and looks, and now I find them normal. Sometimes a bit wacky (for example one member had the tip of his hair painted/dyed white and the cameraman said it looked like Mt Fuji LOL), but nevertheless acceptable. Basically I only ever find it acceptable to openly mock or judge someone in that way when the person finds it funny/mocks it themselves.
That's why I think your family may just need more time to fully accept. I'm sure they still love you just as much! It's probably quite a shock for someone they know and love to reveal something they hadn't a clue about.
LAST OF ALL: I'm so sorry this turned into an essay. OTL
Wow. That was a well-thought-out reply. Thanks.
And yeah, the stereotype is very silly. They all are.