Baby Fever // Lingistic Prescriptivism // A Pretty Poem (That I Didn't Write) - Comments

@ Playboy;
Wow. I didn't know there was THAT much that went into it. Sounds intense. Good luck with everything, though!

There is a lot to adoption, like I have to have a intense like FBI background check, and I have to do a psych evaluation and I asked about my having anxiety they said it was fine nothing to serious if the doctor said I was fine then they saw no issue. Then up until you adopt your house goes through monthly check ins to make sure its clean and suitable for kids, and once the kid is in your home before the adoption is final they ask them if they like it etc and what not; the kids view on you and the home has a huge impact on if you can adopt them or not. I think this is where a lot of sicko's come in because the younger the child the less they can vocalize their distaste....

So over all I know I'll be fine and since I'm adopting from the states with no racial preference and a age limit of up to eight years old I think I'll have a good chance of being placed with a child when the time comes.

@ Playboy;
That's amazing, and it's so cool that you have a plan in place and are already working towards it! That's seriously awesome. My husband and I would like to eventually adopt, too, but probably not until a little bit later, I think.

Yep, I have about 2200 saved in my account right now which is more than I've ever had. I never touch my savings account and about 100 every check goes in there unless I'm doing really good then 200 to 300 go in depending how much I made that pay period. This is my saving for adoption and buying a house funds lol. I need about 13K more to put a down payment on a house but once I have a spouse or committed partner then they can start putting some in too.

I was talking to DPS the other day and asking them things I needed to do in order to foster and adopt and they gave me a huge list so I'm kind of excited - they said it's good to start early and get everything we need before the kid or baby or whatever is here. So I'm saving up and hopefully by the time I'm twenty six I can either foster to adopt or adopt period.

I'm really excited though, I think kids are such a blessing and I can't wait to welcome one who isn't as fortunate to have loving birth parents into my home so they can see what love really is. I am so read, like RIGHT NOW but I'm not ready in the sense of material things. :c

My mom said if I'm going to foster I should have a four bedroom house, one is my room - one is a girls room and one is boys then a nursery and I think thats a great idea so I'll probably get five bedrooms so I can ahve a study where the kids can do their home work. I think it's important to separate play time and learning. Here I go rambling again - sorry.

@ Playboy;
lol. That's why whenever my mom buys for a baby shower (and I do this too now) she only gets like one or two things for 0-3 months and buys most of the stuff for six months to a year.

Yeah if you're lucky, I swear my mom said I was out of my newborn clothes in less than two weeks and it took me a month to be in 3 months clothing.

@ Playboy;
Right? I buy a lot of my clothes second-hand. It's cheap and usually still pretty nice. And yeah, I see no point in spending like $20 an outfit on an infant who will be able to fit into those clothes for like three months if you're lucky.

Shopping at thrift stores isn't that bad, that's where I get most of my clothes half the time so I don't see why I wouldn't get my kids clothes from there too if I had to. Go shopping for new stuff can be fun I do think having more money in the bank then super nice clothes that they're going to grow out of so fast it's not going to even matter, half the time babies grow out of their clothes before they even get to wear them. My sister she bought like this whole new wardrobe for her daughters and her new baby is like barely even 7 month old so she grew out of all the clothes before she could even wear them.

@ Playboy;
I absolutely plan to mostly buy at thrift shops and garage sales, especially early on, and to breastfeed if I'm able.

But yeah, there's definitely more than just "wanting a baby." You can't just want a baby the same way you want a puppy. It's such a huge lifelong commitment.

@ AmorarEsDeVivir
IF I'm not married or committed in a relationship by the time I'm 27 I'm going to go at it alone. I think a lot of the time it's just making it work, over time you will struggle be it with money or patients or time but it's worth it in the end. I'd say shop thrift but I know I won't. I wanted to breast feed and all that jazz but with adoption it wont be very possible unless im on hormones, so ill just buy it instead lol

My mom told me there is a lot more to motherhood than just wanting a baby and she is so right.

@ Playboy;
When I say waiting to be financially stable, I mean waiting until we can comfortably pay all of our bills and still have money left over for food, lol. Right now we're pretty far in debt, but some things are coming up in the next couple months that will give us the opportunity to pay it off so I think we'll be okay.

But yeah, I've had baby fever almost nonstop since I was about 16, and the last couple years it's like, okay, I seriously want to start a family now. We've still got some things to sort out, but I'm just sick of saying "Maybe in a couple years." I can't do that anymore.

I totally understand baby fever, I get it from time to time and I swear its like the worst thing ever sometimes. I know everything from circumcision to cloth diapering - to breastfeeding to getting a baby's ears pierced too when it's necessary for a c-section. I think I know way too much and sometimes it scares me because I had a birth plan in place and now I don't even plan on giving birth to children. But now I'm on a binge I'm looking up stuff about adoption and fostering so I mean being informed isn't a bad thing is sometimes you can be over informed and scare yourself.

Baby fever is commonly started with a woman's body is actually ready for children, and I think it's great that you're not going to wait to be completely financially stable. Because a lot of people actually are never financially stable once they have children. My mom said to just not wait for that moment because it might never come and you always find a way to make it work, and I think with this generation being so educated and having the world at their fingertips with the internet it'll be a lot easier for them to educate children on what they need to know and stop waiting for the schools to teach them.

I'm going to stop before I keep rambling and write like five more paragraphs or something, but this is what happens when you find the voice command thing on your phone and use it to write everything so now I can just talk and it writes everything I say down this is stupid. I'm rambling again :(