Long Distance Relationships - Comments

@ nautical.
@ Airi.
@ losing control.

After reading all of your comments, thanks for them, the guy and I had a talk. We decided to remain just friends. We both have money issues and we're both the kind of person who really needs to be physical with each other often, not just sex, but cuddles, kisses, etc. so yeah... kinda feeling down atm

I'm from the US and I'm in a long distance with a boy from England, so I understand where the worries come from because that's exactly where my mind was at the beginning.

Don't let anyone tell you it's easy, because it's not. It's very very hard, especially when the distance is that far, but it's so so worth it if you can make it work. In my opinion, it's all about trust and commitment in a long distance. Like, you should be serious about it because it's going to require a whole lot of work and probably a bit of sadness because it sucks being that far away from the one you love. But like I said, it's so worth it because when you do meet or when you talk on Skype it's like, well for me, it's just like the best part of your day.

My boyfriend visited in December after about 10 months of talking and we officially started dating then. Finding him was really the best thing that's happened to me and I wouldn't even consider trading it for someone closer.

If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask! In my opinion, you should make sure you really know him and that he wants what you want and try to get a trip planned out if both of you have the same wishes. And hey, it might work out and if not at least you can't regret not trying.

My girlfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. I live in the United States but my girlfriend lives in the Philippines. So there's quite a bit of distance between the two of us. We're both in complicated situations that make it hard for us to see each other. I'm dealing with financial issues and my girlfriend's parents don't support the two of us - which also makes the prospect of me visiting her a little more difficult because family is big to Filipinos. We're still trying to figure out how to make it work and how we can convince her parents to accept it. So I haven't gone to visit her out of fear of causing issue.

Long distance relationships aren't easy. They're incredibly hard and it definitely isn't something for everyone. It takes a lot of commitment, honesty, and trust. It can often make you feel incredibly lonely. There are nights when you'll want to hold them but you know that you can't. You'll probably feel jealous of other couples and there are times when you're going to begin to get aggravated. Nothing about it is easy but with the right person, it is the most rewarding thing.

I love my girlfriend. She saved my life and she has become one of the most important things in my life. I believe that love will find a way. Despite all our troubles, we have been together for almost two years now and we're still very much in love. It has been hard but rewarding. I wouldn't change it for the world and I don't regret meeting her. I probably wouldn't be here if I hadn't met her.

If you two feel strongly about each other, I would recommend giving it a try or at least talking it over. Please make sure that you both are prepared for the hardships it will take to endure to make it work. If you're not prepared for it, the relationship won't work.

I was in an ldr for 2 and a half years, but we were in the same country/only 8 hours away from each other.

Honestly, they're really hard. I found communication really difficult, because you're not face to face and it's hard to get things across on the internet a lot of the time. You have to plan out time sto spend with each other, and if someone is in a bad mood it tends to throw the dynamic off. It's hard not being able to actually be there with someone and just like...hang out and watch a movie or something. It always felt like we had to have something to talk about because there wasn't much else we could do.

I don't regret it, but it was so exhausting a lot of the time and just difficult in general. I don't want to be like "DON'T DO IT IT'S A TRAP" but I would really think about if you see yourself with this guy long term and all that kind of stuff. If I were in your position, I would wait until you met irl before getting into a relationship. That way you can get to know each other on a friendship level online, then feel it out while you're in person and see where it goes from there.

It really depends on the type of person you are, and the type of person he is, and whether or not you both think it could work out. If you ever need anyone to chat to about it, I'm always around!