How Do I Let Go of a Bad Friend? - Comments

I agree with everyone who commented before me. Although it's hard and it hurts, sometimes you got to take a step back and put a distance between yourself and your best friend of many years. but if it's doing you more harm than good, so let her go slowly. And remember, it's alright to still care about her because you've been through a lot with her. Just keep the memories of her in your heart and don't let her toxic behavior bring you down.

Let go immediately. Trust me. You think you know someone but you don't. This has happened to me before and I was friends with this person for 7 years. All you get is talked about by other people and empty promises.

I agree with Michael Westen...

I just went through this. Actually, I've put up with it off and on for over ten years, but all the times before me and my BFF never actually fought. We just... didn't talk for a while. Then we'd reconnect and it would be like nothing had changed.

But this last time, six months ago, she suddenly stopped talking to me. When I asked what was wrong, she let her husband completely tear me down, and she backed him up. Now, she's contacted me again, using a lame excuse and pretending nothing happened. Even her husband is trying to talk to me again.

I'm telling you my story so that you know -- you don't want to keep this pattern going for as long as I have, believe me. You have to take control of the situation instead of letting her make all the rules. (It took me about a million conversations with my mom to get that.) So, when she magically has the time of day for you, don't jump to attention. If she wants to hang out, maybe say you can't a couple of times. You can let her know without it being a big deal that you're fed up with how she's acting. She'll get it once you aren't always there for her anymore. That was the hardest part for me, because I had always been there, even when she wasn't for me.

I would try talking to her, though. Maybe you'll have better luck than I did. If you want to save this, you can discuss it with her, and if she's unwilling to change (or at least understand how she's making you feel), you are better off without her.

Just... don't hold on to something that's meant to be let go of. Don't be like me. And if you ever wanna talk, you can message me, I don't mind. Be strong! I know it hurts, but you will come out better on the other side. I promise!

I have been through this before, maybe not on the same scale, but I definitely know just how much it sucks to be such great friends with somebody only for something to go wrong.

Honestly as hard as it is you just have to create distance. Slowly at first, when she texts take your time replying, if she calls don't immediately pick up. Put up some boundaries and don't let her cross them.

Have you tried talking to her?

Definitely don't keep her around if she's making you miserable. That's not good for you.

And who knows maybe one day she'll turn around and see what's she's done.

Keep your head up.

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