Coming of Age or Whatever (Also Gushing) - Comments

  • uroboros

    uroboros (100)

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    My boyfriend actually was roommates with his ex when we met, imagine that situation lmao. they had been broken up for awhile before that so I wasn't the reason or anything, but there was a lot of drama in that one. he was with him since high school so it had been years of history. It was actually kind of intimidating at first but he actually told me later that my past relationship freaked him out because of the whole 7 years thing. I think he still worries that he doesn't "match" up or something because he hesitates in some things. but I get what you mean. sometimes I close him out without meaning to still. I don't know if that's ever going to stop being overwhelming because it's hard to believe that not only is there someone that understands me intimately, has seen my best and worst and all the inbetweens, but is still here willingly.

    oh god yeah. I'm extremely high strung about money. I'm surprised my boyfriend hasn't punched me yet because I've accidentally started a couple of fights over money since we moved in together hahaha
    July 13th, 2017 at 06:40am
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    exaaaaactly. he was with his ex for five years. i was only with mine for one, but it was the longest relationship i'd had and just in these couple of months, we both feel so much more joy and such a bigger connection than with our exes. it's weird and sometimes overwhelming. kind of have to take a step back every once in a while.

    but yeah. i figure something like that will happen. especially because i'm super high strung, especially when it comes to money. he's had more than me this whole time, but i'm finally getting paid what i'm supposed to, so maybe now i'll be able to convince him to stop paying for everything. but yeah, i bet i'll break down and tell him during some big emotional breakdown hahaha
    July 13th, 2017 at 06:28am
  • uroboros

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    that's kind of how it went with my boyfriend too. I would always tell him to tell me if I was moving too fast and he'd give me a look too and say okay in this tone. if it makes you feel any better, our moment wasn't this big thing either. I couldn't pay my phone bill because I was in between jobs so he did it for me and I got upset because I hate people paying for things for me and it was a bill so it made it worse but when I started having this meltdown between crying and being angry, he basically just flat out said "Because I'm in love with you, shut up" so it wasn't some big moment lmao. I literally said "oh" in response and didn't manage to say it back to him until later that night. I'm not sure it can be this big, special thing like it is in the movies when it's with the person, you know? it's already been established without even having to say it when there's that connection so saying it is almost like a relief and that's a big thing on its own. I think the fact that you're saying it at all is special.

    It is. My ex was my best friend nearly 7 years before him so the fact that he knows me and understands me better than her is weird and at first, was kind of unwelcomed because it was so foreign.
    July 13th, 2017 at 06:22am
  • eraserhead.

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    that's so great! y'all moving in together and stuff.

    i mean, i'm nearly positive that he's right there with me because any time i bring up being scared of moving too fast or saying something stupid he just kind of gives me this look and nods and tells me that he completely understands. maybe it's because part of me wants it to be this big moment, telling him i love him, but i know that's unrealistic.

    it's just weird. feeling understood is weird.
    July 13th, 2017 at 06:07am
  • uroboros

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    I've only really ever had two big relationships honestly. my ex girlfriend and my current boyfriend. I had a platonic relationship with my ex at first so I didn't actually tell her that I loved her, like in love with her, until literally 3 years after I had known her. with my boyfriend, we've been dating for over a year now and I really really wanted to tell him that I loved him a few months into the relationship. but to be fair our relationship started out slow too. We were together without being together "officially" for a few months and then like the week we finally were like "this has escalated into a relationship so might as well call you boyfriend now" I went to Greece for 6 weeks. Somewhere in between that moment and when I got home, the urge to tell him that I loved him got overwhelming. but I'm always paranoid that I move too fast in relationships so I basically waited until he gave me confirmation that he felt the same. I kinda made him say it first in a way. We ended up moving in together in March.

    you did not ask for my life story my bad. Basically I was just trying to say that when you know, you know. I don't think there's a certain wait time before you say the L word especially if something about the person just feels right. I feel that with my boyfriend all the time. I've felt it since the first month we started dating because we were just constantly around each other
    July 13th, 2017 at 06:01am