“Family’s Forever” it’s the truest statement out there. Which means, that unlike friends who you can just drift away from over time because you’ve changed, or they changed, or you guys had a friendship ruinning argument, you’re always going to have to deal with your family. Even when they do all the crap I mentioned above lol XD Because you’re connected by blood or ties. Which is a good thing, because no one wants to feel like they are in the world alone. You could be strangers, but if you find our you’re connected by blood or law, you automatically are tied to one another. You’re not alone. And I think that’s probably what you’ve been feeling. Like you are alone. But you aren’t, trust me. You and your mom and dad will get through this argument just like you’ve gotten through the past. They’ll still be there even if you are all hurt right now. It’s good that you are opening up more about how you really feel, because it’s not good to let it sit or else it will explode like it did. I think that you should start telling your family, when the thought first comes to you, how you really feel. Imagine if you would have told them the moment before you decided not to call them, that you wanted them to reach out and contact you more. Like in passing,”Hey, mom we should try to call each other every Sunday”. I think you would have gotten it out in the open, and then if she still didn’t reciprocate than at least you know you tried. Believe me, coming from someone who is also passive and keeps a lot of stuff inside which in turn makes me do passive aggresive things and then blow up when someone does something small like say the word “diner” because I’ve been holding in the fact that I hate eating at diners for three years and thought that the people who are close to me would pick up on it, but didn’t (this is just an example lol XD), isn’t healthy for us or the people who care about us. And I know as dysfunctional as family can get sometimes, as long as the love is still there, it is worth holding onto. And you seem to really still love and care about your mom, so I know you guys will get through this miscommunication mishap. But please be there for her. She needs you, because cancer is a scary thing and it seems like you were her major area of support system for her last battle. So, she’ll need you to win this one, too. Sorry for my long BIble passage post on your page lol I just kind of understand where your head is at and feel deeply about this topic
November 28th, 2017 at 07:56am