How Would You Feel If Your SO Didn’t Like Your Writing? - Comments

I stumbled upon this and my heart literally broke. My fiance actually begs me to write/read my stories. He actually went far enough to suggest we write together. I'm sorry but it sounds like he didn't like your writing because he's either too stupid or too jealous. Some men really find women's interests and intelligence too overwhelming. My fiance enjoys video games, that's his hobby and I'm all for that and sometimes I'll try to get him away from it but I'm not a straight up asshole about it... I'd think about it, writing sounds like its such a giant impact on you and he doesn't care; he straight up was not supportive and ignorant. Years down the road, what else will he do or say towards something you enjoy?

My boyfriend is also a writer, and we both like each other’s writing. I wouldn’t be with someone who wasn’t supportive of me or who put me down. I’m so sensitive to what my boyfriend says and he actually cares about that enough to be careful with his words, though most guys aren’t.

I'm all for criticisms and whatnot, but he didn't even offer anything. It wasn't even a criticism, it was just blowing you off and deeming your writing as just a hobby and nothing worthwhile. I agree with PoeticMess. and Alsoldey., he's an asshole and thinks you're beneath him. It's a shitty way to react and to be so uninterested in something you love is a bit of a red flag in my book. I would be equally as honest with him lol and tell him that that isn't okay. And then whatever happens after that, happens.

@ Queen of Suburbia
Then he has a VERY skewed (and elietist In my opinion) view of what literature should be nowadays. Writing has evolved since 1950 and will continue to.

My ex tried me with that shit one time, and honestly...I'm not saying dump him, but go ahead and let him know from the heart that what he said was shitty, and that he needs to relax. That's not cool at all.

Actually, no that was super shitty. Tell him off.

Honestly he sounds like an asshole. Not everyone likes the same things, but for him to assume that he's the authority on what's good and what's not? And then to use it as a way to cut you and your goals down? That's a shitty thing to do. My friends aren't at all interested in my writing either, but people who care about you should not come at you that way.

It sounds like he's just a jerk, and he sounds like he thinks really highly of himself, and thinks you're below him. Otherwise he'd try to build you up, not keep you beneath him (and his opinions).

Maybe next time he says your writing sucks or whatever, you should tell him to try writing and see how he is. Dare him to write a two page story, or a two page article (since he wants to be a journalist).

Yes. I totally get this. It hurts when someone you love doesn’t believe in you or even take the time to encourage you. When it comes to the arts (which I classify as writing, singing, drawing, painting, playing music, etc) I believe that no one can really tell someone else that their art isn’t good, because art is truly subjective. If you compared Beyonce to Amy Winehouse you’d have people telling Amy that she can’t sing just because her vocal range isn’t as far as Beyonce’s or her music isn’t R&B and Pop influenced. So, just ignore him. But it sucks that he isn’t more supportive. You just know that your writing might be one part of yourself that you can’t share with him. I have certain people that I can talk to certain stuff about and then certain people that I talk to other stuff about, too. It sucks that it has to be like that (especially since this is your significant other) but prioritize your peace and your passions. <3

@A Siren
He does read, some. But he reads things like the 50 classical literature books you need to read in your lifetime. So he's read Brave New World, Lord of the Flies, One Flew Over the Cuckooo's Nest. Good books, but not for "fun" reading I guess. Other than that he reads news articles sometimes and reviews. So maybe he just has too high of an expectation on what "good" literature is.

@Prolific Designer
Right? He could've just been like "yeah, it was okay. I just don't like reading a whole lot to have an opinion on it." That would've been end of story.

I would be so frustrated. I would want him to tell me how he feels but also be supportive. It sounds like your boyfriend isn’t speaking to you like you’re a SO, but like you’re just a random acquaintance. It’s kinda rude. I’d want him to tell me why he doesn’t think it’s good.

But does your boyfriend read a lot? Does he write? If not, I’d say his opinion doesn’t matter

It doesn't sound to me like he's actually interested enough in the first place to even have an opinion on whether or not you're good.

I'd be pissed too, honestly.

@Kill_the_Headlights
I'm not going to. I'm just saying what if I had taken it to the other end and felt really sad and hurt about him not liking what I had written?

Don't give up what you love for just one naysayer.