Dating Website Woes (possibly NSFW) + Updates - Comments

  • alexander bernadotte

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    @ divine;
    i think i’ll try bumble eventually. a friend of my mom tried it and i guess she had luck? but yeah, i need to quit giving a shit about what my family says about me. i’m more than that, i think.

    @ OceansBlue
    i did have a profile picture up and it was kinda flattering, lol! i did get a dick pic once and i was like, “yo, there’s something wrong with it.” bc something DID look wrong with it, lmao!

    i think i’m just terrified of disappointing my family, idk. :/

    @ VixL
    you’re right — i don’t and i’m done with hearing about it from them. >__<
    January 6th, 2019 at 07:59pm
  • VixL

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    I relate to so much of this. I agree with OceansBlue and everyone else: Don’t feel pressured to try and date just because you feel like you have to prove something to your family. You don’t! Hug
    January 6th, 2019 at 02:46pm
  • Unown

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    Oh man. Facepalm In a weird way, I kind of understand why they do that stuff though - maybe they think they've mastered the art of sexting? lmfao In reality, I think they're just desperate and because of that I do feel sorry for them (despite the harassment). Did you have a profile picture up? They probably found you attractive if so, which in itself is a confidence booster. tehe

    What's funny is that the ONE time I basically made it known that I wanted to engage in sex on a popular dating website, I did receive lots of messages but very few were actually dirty! Many, in fact, questioned why I was so open about it. Only two were in my view realistic to follow up, and I still keep in contact with one of them months later (even though we never met). No dick pics! I think I was only sent a dick pic once in my life (on a chat forum's PM of all places), and I still cringe at the whole ordeal because at first (being naive af) I didn't know what it was and thought it was a snake. lmfao Well, it's not my fault that they can't even get the angle right. File

    Regarding the pressure from family, I would say not to worry about all the dating malarky unless YOU want to. It's not selfish to focus on yourself, I think it's actually sensible. Funnily enough, I actually had a super weird and horrible nightmare the other night where I ended up getting married to some random dude I didn't even know and forgot meeting. My mum was basically dragging me through the whole process and I just remember it being so horrible and it feeling so, so wrong when I was at the front facing this guy at the small private wedding. I barely knew him and it was clear that neither of us wanted to really get to know each other.
    January 6th, 2019 at 08:35am
  • divine;

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    While the vast majority of men (on and offline) are not into commitment/want hookups...some guys do want more. I met my current partner via bumble so you never know!

    eta: do what makes you happy and feel good. It’s your life and your route, no one else’s. Have a blast at your own pace.
    January 6th, 2019 at 08:10am
  • alexander bernadotte

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    @ Qhuinn.
    i've tried that route too, but ugh, nothing really worked. i think i'm too picky, that's all. idk if dating is the right thing to focus on right now. :/ it's so difficult.
    January 6th, 2019 at 07:03am
  • elsa of northuldra

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    @ alexander bernadotte
    I had a friend tell me that speed dating worked really well for her. Also, maybe see if your friends know anyone who knows someone who is also interested in casually seeing someone. Its hard to be ignored after trying hard with someone, even after a hook-up.
    January 6th, 2019 at 06:49am
  • alexander bernadotte

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    @ Qhuinn.
    i knew it would come eventually bc i've been on those sites before. i go on them being really serious about finding someone, but these guys just ruin it; i know that not all guys are trash like this, but i mean, jeez. it's sad that i maybe actually communicated with only about two people, but they eventually went along the hookup route and i ended up ignoring them from then on. i won't lie when i say that i was sort of disappointed.

    i try not to let what my grandparents say/think bother me. i think i'm an okay human being. but it doesn't make it any less hurtful.
    January 6th, 2019 at 06:32am
  • elsa of northuldra

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    Those website are full of creeps looking for hookups. I cannot go on them (even when I was single) because it would make my anxiety go CRAZY just waiting for the weirdo's message me. I would constantly have messages asking if I wanted to hook up, how big their penis was and how they would change my life with their amazing loving.
    I know they're entertaining but maybe try to disconnect from them for awhile? Don't be on something just to appease your family. Everyone moves at their own pace and they shouldn't question your sexuality because of it.
    January 6th, 2019 at 06:22am