January 29th, 2019 at 06:52am
I don’t know about you, but back in the day I used to think I just had to be the “good friend” that listened to everyone’s problems and gave them what they needed but never asked the same in return. But that’s not how friendship works. It’s a two way street.
As far as them not calling/texting you first or checking in on you mention it.
Be like: Hey, I’d like it if you called more often and not just when you want something (jokingly of course, but also let them know you’re being serious. Be like “Hey, I get lonely too. I would like it if you texted me sometimes too”
Sometimes your friends or family might think that you’re solid and don’t need to be checked in on because you’ve been acting like you’re ok with them being distnat. But really you aren’t. So let them know.
Be like, “Hey, we should try and call each other every Sunday night” or “We should send a good morning text every morning”
It works.
You have to be upfront with people because or else they think you’re fine with the way things are when (like I said before) you’re not.
What irritates me about peopel was the same thing that irritates you right now. But now I realize I have to tell people how I want to be treated and how I want to have a relationship. So, I do that more now lol.
Love this response!
Maybe I just need to be more direct with people in what I want.
I’m the same way too though. I’m such a people pleaser, that I always try to help my friends through their issues, that I don’t even mention mine. Then I bottle it all up until I’m ready to explode.
Thank you for the advice. I’ll just have to be more direct and really tell people what I want!