I need to need him, not just to want him

hm...this was the topic me and my friend were discussing before. Like, when you like a guy,( a guy since I'm a girl) then, do you like to want him just because you want him? or you want to be with him because you needed to be with him? It's a little bit confusing. But to me, I should actually need him first. I don't want to want him for if I only want him then its as if I don't need him. That I want him just because I want him. And I'm not wanting him because I'm not needing him if I ONLY want him. Confusing, right?

Any ways... that's all I could say. I need to need him instead of wanting him.