love and age

I'm going out with this guy that's older than me.... as of yesterday 4 years older than me. So I'm jailbait which really sucks. My mom told me to talk to him. She told me to tell him for his and my best interest me and him shouldn't be going out. She told me to tell him or she'd have to tell him and she thought it would be better if it came from me. So i had to tell him yesterday on his birth day.... which was really frigin' hard for me. So yesterday after he left and he knew the situation i cried for about an hour then wrote in my diary and fell asleep. So we have another thing in common.... we both had crappy birth days this year. So today my sister told me he was looking for a loophole and her and my mom were looking online for a loophole. I feel like sh*t and I'm going to feel like sh*t until I know I can make-out with him with out getting him a massive amount of trouble. So tell me if u found a loophole in that law..... it would really help me and him out.