Is personality really key?

There has to be something horribly wrong with me for me to still be single.
No I'm not vain far from it. But the girls I see with boyfriends these days are not Just hideous outside but are so horrid on the inside. These boys all complain to me about how they want a girl that can be one of the guys but can also let him be with just his guys.
Yeah I check that box.
They want a girl that has confidence in aspects but can also be shy.
I check that one too.
A girl that can have a laugh at their derogatory jokes , but still have feminish charms.
Yeah tick that.
That isnt clingy And overly affectionate
I fill basically all these personality checklists a guy asks for but yet for some reason I'm always the single girl at the party.
Don't get me wrong I'm not searching for a relationship, I oils like one if the right opportunity came up, but it hasn't. The opportunity goes to these clingy overbearing slutty women.
So the only conclusions I have come to are ; men do not intact want what they say they want.
Or Im the most repulsive looking person out.

Any advice?
Ps ignore the dreadful grammar etc I'm on my phone.