You Shouldn't Ask Your Boyfriend for Permission

Seriously. This drives me crazy. I hate it when I ask my female friends to do something and they're like, "Well... let me ask Boyfriend what he's got planned."

I don't care what he has planned. I don't care if he hates going to the mall. I don't care if he doesn't like the restaurant/bar/club we planned to visit. I don't care if he thinks our DIY projects are lame. I wasn't inviting him!. I was inviting you- an independent, adult woman more than capable of making her own decisions.

And I am married. I get when you need to talk with someone about money if you share finances. That's fine. But isn't it a little odd how he can spend money out drinking with his buddies every weekend, but it would be preposterous for you to go to the mall with me? Isn't it odd how he can buy parts for his car/dirt bike/whatever when he needs them, but you can't pig out with me on chinese food and watch chick flicks?

I think I just have a general disdain for patriarchal relationships. Women shouldn't need (or rather, allow) men to tell them what they can and cannot do. This isn't the 1950s and if you're constantly being dominated by someone, your relationship isn't healthy and it isn't going to last. You have to learn to stand on your own two feet and forge your own path. If you don't, you'll just be bitter and start to resent your "partner".

I just think it's crazy that I'm the one who's actually married to someone else, yet I'm the most independent woman in our circle. I'm the one telling my non married friends to go study abroad, to take that internship, to backpack across Europe, to transfer to their dream university, etc. Why would anyone pass these opportunities up for some guy who has made zero commitment to you? I just don't think my friends realize that once this guy is gone (and he will be), these opportunities won't be back.
November 24th, 2012 at 05:39pm