Single vs Relationship

So I've always been for the single life. No drama, no commitment, no worries. However in the past two months or so I've been getting close to this guy and while we're not labelling ourselves to be in a relo, we technically are. But we're not. Neither of us are ready for that sort of commitment XD

Anyways I was super bored last night and thinking about our situation made me draw up a list of what would be better, being single or being in a relationship, and this is what I thought of:

SINGLE:
1. No drama
2. Freedom - to do whatever you want whenever you want
3. Can be friends / do whatever you want with other people and no one will bat an eyelid.
4. No emotions involved
5. No guilt when seeing other people (as in, if you have a boyfriend and you hang out with other guys, there won't be that jealousy or whatevs)
6. Forces independence - you don't need a significant other to do shit with because you can do said shit on your own
7. Your time is your own
8. Can actually focus on your life
9. You don't have to constantly shave
10. No dealing with man periods (or female periods, depending on which way you roll)
11. Less stress/anxiety/worries/etc
12. When you're single, you stay you - there are some people out there who change when they're with someone, whether it be for the positive or the negative (I've been told that I'm less reserved since hanging out with my boy but that's a good thing!) but I'm focusing on the negative ways in which someone changes, or they change their morals/beliefs/values for the worse rather than the best

RELATIONSHIP:
1. Cuddle buddy/emotional intimacy
2. Constant sex, or just that general sexual intimacy with someone
3. Feel loved
4. Can embrace your cute/romantic side without being teased or judged (I'm generally emotionally detached, but when it comes to hanging out with the boy, I have a tendency to get mushy and disgusting)
5. Pays for your meals (XD)
6. Ego boosts
7. Motivation to look good naked - for someone like me who is exceptionally lazy, my motivation to look good naked when I was single was barely existent as opposed to now who would like to lose weight ~
8. Someone you can count on to make you feel better/talk to about anything
9. Having an emotional connection with someone - which I guess is like number 8 but could be diff
10. Opens your mind to new possibilities/see things differently
11. Understand/learn different parts of yourself
12. Can relate on a weirdness level - when your friends look at you weirdly, at least you know your significant other to agree with you or think it's cute or something. I'm not sure if this applies to everyone. Perhaps just me XD

What do you think of these points? Agree or disagree? Let me know!
June 1st, 2014 at 04:55am